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Re­la­tion­ships (In­ter­per­sonal)

TagLast edit: Sep 7, 2025, 7:39 PM by gustaf

Interpersonal Relationships includes all forms of sustained interaction between people. This topic includes any discussion relating to friendship, romantic relationships, family relationships, business relationships, and so on.

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[Question] Thoughts on the rel­a­tive eco­nomic benefits of polyamorous re­la­tion­ships?

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[Question] Weight­ing At­tach­ment in Re­la­tion­ship Decisions

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Con­sen­sual Hostility

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Poll: What do you look for in a re­la­tion­ship?

DesrtopaFeb 10, 2011, 1:15 AM
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[Question] [Refer­ence re­quest] Can Love be Ex­plained?

Alexander Gietelink OldenzielJul 7, 2020, 10:09 AM
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New Re­la­tion­ship En­ergy as an Emo­tional Bias

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You are not too “ir­ra­tional” to know your prefer­ences.

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Stop try­ing to have “in­ter­est­ing” friends

eqApr 19, 2023, 11:39 PM
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Let­ting Others Be Vulnerable

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EA Re­la­tion­ship Status

jefftkSep 19, 2020, 1:50 AM
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So­cratic Per­sua­sion: Giv­ing Opinionated Yet Truth-Seek­ing Advice

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Univer­sal Love In­te­gra­tion Test: Hitler

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New Post ver­sion 1 (please read this ONLY if your last name be­ings with a–k)

lukeprogJul 27, 2011, 9:57 PM
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Do Women Like Ass­holes?

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One True Love

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“25 Les­sons from 25 Years of Mar­riage” by hon­orary ra­tio­nal­ist Fer­rett Stein­metz

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[Question] Are there high-qual­ity sur­veys available de­tailing the rates of polyamory among Amer­i­cans age 18-45 in metropoli­tan ar­eas in the United States?

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My Mar­riage Vows

Vanessa KosoyJul 21, 2021, 10:48 AM
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When Hav­ing Friends is More Allur­ing than Be­ing Right (by Fer­rett Stein­metz)

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Com­ments on Ja­cob Falkovich on loneliness

Alex FlintSep 16, 2021, 10:04 PM
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Friend­ship and hap­piness generation

AlexMennenNov 25, 2011, 8:52 PM
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AI Gir­lfriends Won’t Mat­ter Much

Maxwell TabarrokDec 23, 2023, 3:58 PM
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Dat­ing Roundup #6

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Dat­ing Roundup #3: Third Time’s the Charm

ZviMay 8, 2024, 1:30 PM
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Re­la­tion­ship com­pat­i­bil­ity as pat­terns of emo­tional associations

Kaj_SotalaApr 29, 2017, 5:11 PM
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Diver­sify Your Friend­ship Portfolio

Davis_KingsleyJul 9, 2019, 11:06 PM
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habrykaSep 5, 2020, 5:04 AM
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In Defense of Chat­bot Romance

Kaj_SotalaFeb 11, 2023, 2:30 PM
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Friend­ship is utilitarian

KatjaGraceDec 3, 2015, 1:00 AM
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Charisma is a Force Multiplier

Davis_KingsleyOct 11, 2020, 10:21 AM
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Im­pres­sive vs hon­est signaling

Adam ZernerOct 26, 2021, 7:16 AM
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Paraso­cial re­la­tion­ship logic

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Dat­ing Roundup #1: This is Why You’re Single

ZviAug 29, 2023, 12:50 PM
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Per­ils of op­ti­miz­ing in so­cial contexts

owencbJun 16, 2022, 5:40 PM
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Triumph & Hope: How Far Hu­man­ity Has Come

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Re­veal Culture

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How To So­cial­ize With Psy­cho(lo­gist)s

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Hu­man-AI Re­la­tion­al­ity is Already Here

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The Skewed and the Screwed: When Mat­ing Meets Politics

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En­ti­tle­ment, Covert Con­tracts, So­cial Liber­tar­i­anism, and Re­lated Concepts

ozymandiasNov 17, 2017, 7:00 PM
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AI ro­man­tic part­ners will harm so­ciety if they go unregulated

Roman LeventovAug 1, 2023, 9:32 AM
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Re­la­tional Align­ment: Trust, Re­pair, and the Emo­tional Work of AI

Priyanka BharadwajMay 8, 2025, 2:44 AM
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The Power to Be Emo­tion­ally Mature

LironSep 16, 2019, 2:41 AM
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Coach­ing AI: A Re­la­tional Ap­proach to AI Safety

Priyanka BharadwajJun 16, 2025, 3:33 PM
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Shittests are ac­tu­ally good

snog toddgrassSep 24, 2020, 5:20 PM
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Raw Post: Talk­ing With My Brother

DirectedEvolutionJul 13, 2019, 2:57 AM
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Against Love Languages

Ben PaceDec 29, 2017, 9:51 AM
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[Question] Dat­ing in 2023 sucks. Why isn’t AI helping?

Andreas ChrysopoulosOct 16, 2023, 12:31 PM
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Ask­ing For Help

Neel NandaDec 27, 2020, 11:32 AM
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Go F*** Someone

Jacob FalkovichJan 15, 2020, 6:39 PM
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Guidelines for cold mes­sag­ing people

Severin T. SeehrichJan 17, 2022, 12:07 PM
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The Wrong­ness Iceberg

alfredmacdonaldFeb 4, 2013, 9:02 AM
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Think in Terms of Ac­tions, not Attributes

CollisteruNov 11, 2020, 3:57 PM
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Pre­mortem as com­mu­ni­ca­tion de­vice (e.g. in re­la­tion­ship)

becausecuriousApr 4, 2022, 6:53 PM
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Avoid large group dis­cus­sions in your so­cial events

RomanHaukssonFeb 15, 2023, 9:05 PM
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snog toddgrassJul 17, 2020, 4:52 AM
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The im­pact of you is de­ter­mined by them.

Munkh-Ochir Soyol-ErdeneDec 10, 2020, 10:01 PM
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Swimmer963 (Miranda Dixon-Luinenburg) Aug 25, 2013, 7:29 PM
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Ra­tion­al­ity Les­sons Learned from Ir­ra­tional Ad­ven­tures in Romance

lukeprogOct 4, 2011, 2:45 AM
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A.I. and the Se­cond-Per­son Standpoint

Haley MollerSep 4, 2025, 1:56 PM
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A Bond­ing Plat­form for Ra­tional Thinkers – Call for Sugges­tions and Collaboration

Martin BraquetJul 25, 2025, 7:23 PM
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Kelly Bet on Everything

Jacob FalkovichJul 10, 2020, 2:48 AM
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The State of Affairs

Jacob FalkovichMay 3, 2019, 4:18 PM
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Why At­ti­tudes Matter

ozymandiasSep 21, 2017, 3:07 PM
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Polyamory is Ra­tional(ist)

Jacob FalkovichOct 18, 2019, 4:48 PM
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