DaystarEld

• DaystarEld 27 Dec 2025 9:16 UTC

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  in reply to: IndraG’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  I’ve added guilt and shame to the article :)

• DaystarEld 27 Dec 2025 9:15 UTC

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  in reply to: Amin Sennour’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  I think it might be reasonable to distinguish the physiological reactions of emotions from the felt-sense of the emotions themselves; some biological reactions from emotions are probably leftover evolutionary traits from pre-homo-sapiens.

  But I think you’re presuming too much by taking note of how inconvenient the physical symptoms are in modern contexts versus past ones. If being anxious->slippery palms->worse spear throws were really that detrimental to hunting, shouldn’t we expect it would have been selected against?

  Notice your confusion, ask the next question: do sweaty palms make it harder to throw spears, or other natural objects? Smooth, artificially man made objects, yes. But porous objects like rocks and wood, quite the opposite! If you need to throw a spear or climb a tree, turns out dry hands are worse than slightly damp ones!

  Is this sufficient justification for why our palms getting sweaty when anxious is a good thing? Maybe not. Maybe it’s a just-so story that is true for one particular instance or scenario but false for all the other times people get anxious and have sweaty palms. Certainly if your hands get too sweaty this might wrap back around to making things worse.

  But I think you presume too much if you take for granted that the biological reactions of emotions are were not advantageous for the environment and situations we evolved in. Saying that you wish you didn’t have them now is reasonable, but I don’t think we should take for granted that we can always select out the unhelpful biological effects without losing something helpful in the process.

  You’re totally right that Anxiety fires when we care about things—but I know that I care about this thing already—the Anxiety just makes me way more likely to fail.

  I’m curious what you mean by you “know” you care about the thing already. Do you know this because of another emotion, or because of something else entirely? Is this the case for everything you care about that might go wrong?

• DaystarEld 16 Dec 2025 12:39 UTC

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  on: Toss a bit­coin to your Light­cone – LW + Lighthaven’s 2026 fundraiser

  Donated another $1,000, same reasoning as last year, which I’ll repost from the comment I made back then. In addition, since last year I ran an event myself at Lighthaven, WARP 2025, and it was a fantastic venue to work with. Having a place like this in the community makes a huge difference, and it feels important to do what I can to help it continue to exist for all of us.
  
  I just donated $1,000. This is not a minor amount for me, and I almost just donated $10 as suggested in Shoshannah’s comment, but I knew I could donate that much without thought or effort, and I wanted to really put at least some effort into this, after seeing how much obvious effort Oliver and others at Lesswrong have been putting in.
  
  My decision process was as follows:

  First, I dealt with my risk aversion/​loss aversion/​flinch response to giving large sums of money away. This took a couple minutes, much faster than it used to be thanks to things like my Season of Wealth a couple years ago, but felt like a mildly sharp object jiggling around in my chest until I smoothed it out with reminders of how much money I make these days compared to the relatively poor upbringing I had and the not-particularly-high salary I made for the first ~decade of my adult life.

  Second, I thought of how much I value Lesswrong and Lighthaven existing in the world as a vague thing. Impersonally, not in the ways they have affected me, just like… worlds-with-these-people-doing-this-thing-in-it vs worlds-without. This got me up to a feeling of more than double what I wanted to give, somewhere around 25ish.

  Third, I thought about how much value I personally have gained from Lesswrong and Lighthaven. I cannot really put a number on this. It’s hard to disentangle the value from all the various sources in the rationality space, and the people who posts on LW and attended Lighthaven events. This ballooned the amount to something extremely hard to measure. Far more than $100, but probably less than 10,000?

  Fourth, I dealt with the flinch-response again. 10,000 is a lot for me. I lost more than that due to FTX’s collapse even before the clawback stress started, and that took a bit of time to stop feeling internal jabs over. A few subsections needed dealing with; what if I have an emergency and need lots of money? What if my hypothetical future wife or kids do? Would I regret donating then? This bumped me way back down to the hundreds range.

  Fifth, I thought about how I would feel if I woke up today and instead of reading this post, I read a post saying that they had to shut down Lighthaven, and maybe even LessWrong, due to lack of funding. How much I would regret not having donated money, even if it didn’t end up helping. I’m still quite sad that we lost Wytham, and would pay money to retroactively try to save it if I could. This brought me up to something like $3-500.

  Sixth, I confronted the niggling thought of “hopefully someone out there will donate enough that my contribution will not really matter, so maybe I don’t even need to really donate much at all?” This thought felt bad, and I had a brief chat with my parts, thanking my internal pragmatism for its role in ensuring we’re not being wasteful before exploring together if this is the sort of person we want to be when other people might need us. After that conversation was over the number had stabilized around 500.

  Seventh, I thought about the social signal if I say I donated a lot and how this might encourage others to donate more too, effectively increasing the amount Lesswrong gets, and decided this didn’t really affect much. Maybe a minor effect toward increasing, but nothing noticeable.

  Eighth, I thought about the impact to the world re: Alignment. I felt the black hole there, the potential infinite abyss that I could throw my savings and life into and probably not get any useful effect out of, and spent some time with that before examining it again and feeling like another few hundred may not “make sense” in one direction or the other, but felt better than not doing it.

  And ninth, I finally thought about the individuals working at Lighthaven that I know. How much do I trust them? How much do I want them to feel supported and motivated and cared for by the community they’re contributing so much to?

  By the end of that I was around 8-900 and I thought, fuck it, I’ve made stupider financial decisions than an extra hundred bucks for a fancy T-shirt, and nice round numbers are nice and round.

  Thank you all for all you do. I hope this helps.

• DaystarEld 4 Dec 2025 5:52 UTC

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  in reply to: Katalina Hernandez’s comment on: Episte­mol­ogy of Ro­mance, Part 1

  Thanks! I haven’t seen 500 Days of Summer but have considered making some film review youtube channel that dissects romance films with this lens, so if I do I’ll keep that one in mind :)

Episte­mol­ogy of Ro­mance, Part 2

Episte­mol­ogy of Ro­mance, Part 1

A Tax­on­omy of Bugs (Lists)

In­for­ma­tion Hygiene

• DaystarEld 26 Nov 2025 6:29 UTC

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  in reply to: Afterimage’s comment on: You are not too “ir­ra­tional” to know your prefer­ences.

  No apologies necessary, it’s possible I wasn’t clear enough!

  My main point is that the orthogonality thesis applies to humans too: intelligence and values are distinct things. To judge someone’s actions as irrational, you need to actually understand their values and preferences. If you think they shouldn’t do something because the tradeoff is too high, and they acknowledge the tradeoff but want to do it anyway, that may just reveal preferences different from yours, not necessaril irrationality.

Prin­ci­ples and Gen­er­a­tors of a Ra­tion­al­ity Dojo

• DaystarEld 25 Nov 2025 17:38 UTC

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  in reply to: Afterimage’s comment on: You are not too “ir­ra­tional” to know your prefer­ences.

  This is a good point, but the actual difference in the scenario is that ice cream is not meth ;P I think it is actually meaningful to notice that, while there may in fact be good reasons not to have ice cream, there are many, much stronger reasons not to do meth, and Bryce bringing those up are much more likely to dissuade Ash, and if they don’t, Ash is much more irrational if Ash chooses to do it anyway… but that choice is still independent from wanting meth.
  
  Your version of Bryce is doing a less defensible thing, while mine is being more reasonable, while still being wrong, and I think that’s the important point I’m making.

• DaystarEld 19 Aug 2025 15:44 UTC

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  in reply to: awenonian’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  Ah, yeah, see again my emphasis that I did not name this article “Emotions Are Good” :P

  If you pick scenarios where people can find other emotions by which they end up doing the Morally Good and Personally Optimal thing… yeah, envy isn’t needed there.

  But my claim is there are situations where people are driven by envy to do things that make their liklihood to survive and thrive better than if they had not felt it. If you disagree with that, this is what the article is trying to accomplish as a step 1, and integration happens after that.

  But none of that requires “endorsement” in the way you seem(?) to mean it. Envy is not Nice. To put it in another frame, it is MtG: Black, and the value it brings to the table needs to be understood seperately from “is it good/​altruistic/​endorsed.”

  Does that make sense?

• DaystarEld 17 Aug 2025 13:04 UTC

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  in reply to: awenonian’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  It is certainly not my argument, nor implied by the example, that the only reason someone would do something is because of Jealousy or Envy. Things like pleasure and admiration motivate us as well, but most people don’t wonder why we have them or wish they would go away.

• DaystarEld 17 Aug 2025 13:04 UTC

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  in reply to: dottedmag’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  I hope I didn’t imply somehow that there are no other reasons people might do things besides envy or jealousy!

• DaystarEld 11 Aug 2025 11:29 UTC

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  in reply to: CronoDAS’s comment on: You are not too “ir­ra­tional” to know your prefer­ences.

  “You haven’t actually offered me a better alternative” sounds like a failure on your parents’ parts, or a failure of imagination on your 15-year-old-self’s part. Which happens fairly often, and is a separate thing about the preferences themselves being irrational. Many people would be happy with a life of leisure and no responsibilities, and the desire for that isn’t irrational at all. It’s important to be educated about the long-term consequences of it specifically because that’s what helps people feel motivated to do something more robust to their future self’s preferences.

  I’d also note that “didn’t want to do schoolwork” is different from “didn’t want to go to school at all,” which yes has legal consequences that rather drastically changes the outcome.

• DaystarEld 7 Aug 2025 19:54 UTC

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  in reply to: Murtaza Amin’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  I cover your definition of jealousy under “Romantic jealousy,” though I should specify that it can apply to other things like freindship as well.

  As for laziness, I think it is actually often the case that people feel lazy for energy conservation reasons, and I do think that is a separate thing from “lacking motivation to do a thing at all.” The energy conservation example was indeed badly phrased, though, I’ll edit it :)

• DaystarEld 7 Aug 2025 18:01 UTC

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  in reply to: PeterL’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  Curiosity is definitely an emotion! Did you try the 5 minute exercise on it? :)

• DaystarEld 7 Aug 2025 8:22 UTC

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  in reply to: philh’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  Ahhh, you’re talking about the memory. Yes, that was the moment of Joy’s realization for why Sadness has value. But before her friends/​teammates show up to cheer for her, it’s her parents that show up to comfort her. I think it’s fair to say that her friends showing up to cheer for her probably meant a lot more to Riley than her parents’ comfort in that moment, since it was more tied to the specific thing that was making her feel bad, but Joy’s out-loud recognition was that Riley’s parents showed they cared about her when she was sad, which is the important parallel for the issue in the plot where Riley feels like her parents don’t care about her.

• DaystarEld 6 Aug 2025 8:30 UTC

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  in reply to: Multicore’s comment on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  Yep, thanks for pointing this out; it often comes up in the class itself if people ask something like “What happens if people don’t care if you start crying?” but it’s hard to comprehensively address all these sorts of points without making each section two or three times longer.

• DaystarEld 6 Aug 2025 8:27 UTC

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  in reply to: Adele Lopez’s comment on: You are not too “ir­ra­tional” to know your prefer­ences.

  Was this comment meant to be in reply to me, or the OP? (I agree with these points and think I covered them in my response.)