I really like this, I’ve never seen a premise quite like it!
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(Wow, I was commenting on LW thirteen years ago...) I didn’t suggest saying this out of the blue! My recommended riposte borrows the story protagonist’s vocabulary and tone. If a woman asks you:
“What you’re saying is tantamount to saying that you want to fuck me. So why shouldn’t I react with revulsion precisely as though you’d said the latter?”
then, it may be appropriate to discuss, optionally using the word “fuck”, why she’d react that way if you’d asked that question, which you didn’t, having instead (as in the story) made a much more innocuous suggestion, neither culturally inappropriate nor abrupt and crass.
There’s this though it is imperfect.
My impulse here is to itemize—X hours for this step, Y for that step, Z as safety margin in case of P, Q, or R.
I don’t have a great episodic memory so I can’t be as detailed as one might hope about the trajectory from 2010, but I think it worked fine! I no longer do much active mood maintenance. I’m on an SSRI again as of last year, but that’s about energy levels and “anxiety” (I don’t experience anxiety-the-emotion that often, but I seem to maybe have the underlying correlate of anxiety disorders that just pops out differently). I am sometimes irritated, frustrated, bored, exasperated, etc., but seldom sad and often happy..
This post is very interesting and I’m excited to hear back from anyone who is going to experiment based on it. My experience with sleep deprivation is mostly centered around having children; my functioning is unquestionably impacted by that kind of fragmented and reduced sleep (especially emotionally) but maybe a solid yet shorter period of sleep would actually be fine. The trouble is I’m not sure how I’d check… because I’ve found that if I have an alarm set to go off in the morning, not only is it in itself staggeringly unpleasant, it makes me anxious enough that I sleep very poorly the night before. I’ve gone to a lot of effort to (kids and all) arrange that I can sleep in as late as feels right.
Isn’t lithium in water linked to lower depression rates and not really something you’d want to straightforwardly remove even if it turned out to be making people fat? I guess you might win on net if it turned out you could cure about that much depression with lotsalightboxes and be rid of obesity in the bargain, but it’s at least a little complicated.
Your link to Quillette is broken for me.
I do usually roast it, and would only sauté if I were being miserly with dishes or didn’t want to turn on the oven, but I would expect it to be fine, yeah.
...I’m a pretty good cook and can’t actually think of any reason you shouldn’t sauté asparagus. You shouldn’t sauté… lettuce? I can’t think of a good reason to sauté seaweed? But asparagus seems like it’d be fine.
Does it seem likely that soybean oil in particular is special? I think I could pretty straightforwardly eliminate it from my diet—I never cook with it and am not specifically attached to snacks that contain it—but I’d have a harder time if I also couldn’t use canola, sesame, avocado, coconut… Let alone other soy products like tofu.
I don’t have a Facebook account. I use my spouse’s so I can read things but I don’t eve know how to do the rest.
Attendance of the meet wound up being:
me
my four year old, for about the first half hour
an adult and child who were over anyway for a playdate
one other person
I am curious if there are things I could have done to improve turnout, if anyone has ideas.
Art Meet
Relentlessness
How do you motivate the embedded assumption that there is no such thing as harmless variation?
I think an important obstacle to “I’ll apologize if they’ll apologize” situations is that people often have very specific needs for the traits of an apology they’re receiving, doing it correctly without instructions is a very important signal of being on the same page about what went wrong, and incorrect apologies can be downright insulting (such as “I’m sorry you feel that way”, a classic, or, “I’m sorry about X” “this whole time you thought I was mad about X??? I don’t give a crap about X!”) The existence of a hypothetical apology doesn’t serve the same purposes as a fully featured one.
We tried to buy a place around the corner (not right adjacent, but no crossing streets, so we could have let pretty small kids walk it alone), but we could only afford to lowball it and didn’t get it. We don’t want to move because moving is horrible but if the place burned down or something we would probably all or mostly all move together.
I will also match this bounty, and encourage others to do the same.