This is a false dichotomy that can be resolved by coloring understanding with epistemic status. It’s prudent to grow understanding of confused and contentious things, of points of view that seem alien, as long as you don’t forget they are not your own (at least initially), and don’t let them take over all of your time. Understanding things well requires taking them seriously, but carries no obligation to believe or endorse what you come to understand.
This understanding then lets you speak its language, to find signal in other things that otherwise would seem like noise or senseless conflict. Occasionally, it turns out to contain valuable lessons, something worth endorsing. Crucially, this is the only practical way to defeat path dependence, to make your own epistemic luck.
This is not centrally the case. You don’t need to go for the median to draw a sensible boundary and then retreat from it to the inside, with some margin. There will remain a lot of variation, on both content and quality, but you won’t risk the failure modes of non-centrality.
The criteria that grade arguments as sane/thoughtful/well-articulated should be suspect, because something might be such from your point of view, but not from inside the target worldview. If you optimize too strongly, you risk goodharting on your alien proxy measures of quality and pick a non-central representative as a “steelman” source.
Failing to find fault is very different from understanding an idea, digesting it well enough to keep developing it on your own. The purpose of steelmanning, in the (more useful, I think) distortionary variant of its meaning, is to build your own ideas regardless of whether they accurately represent and should be attributed to their original source/inspiration. This doesn’t work at all if you merely “have a hard time finding fault”.