They were broadly gesturing at taking the general norms of the math community seriously and signaling deference and respect. One specific norm I’m thinking of is of not racing towards something just because someone else’s ongoing work has indicated a solution is within reach (admittedly not an absolute norm especially with certain very competitive people, but doing this is at least bad taste).
My main issue is that they were simply dishonest by playing up their respect for the community (which we now know was at best not deep-rooted). There was always going to be some friction with the math community just because the AI is getting better and mathematicians were going to feel the effects of this in some way—so I’m not sure there’d been a way to handle this without upsetting the math community in some way.
E.g. I don’t have any problems with Anthropic’s actions towards the math community in particular. (I personally find the employees using internal models to prove stuff obnoxious, but am overall less sure how to evaluate this)
You might indeed have different norms and it depends a bit on the circumstances. If you say already knew how to do it (in the sense of having developed the idea somewhat) before talking to your colleague, and you just start working it out more to see if you’re correct given the information from them it seems fine.
I do think it’s in pretty bad taste if you didn’t know beforehand you were able to do it, and you only tried hard after it became clear that it’s probably kind of doable due to their work (and you know say that you’re more overall capable/have more spare resources than your colleague, so you fell confident you can beat them). I agree that Bubeck’s behavior might have been even worse, but hard to know for sure and less squarely on OpenAI as such.