Very many things do shape your mind. More than we ever give credence to.
At the end of the day, I feel that the earring is unfairly maligned. I can see a case for it being benign, or even well-intentioned. Any more than that? We are, at the end of the day, arguing about a fictional artifact. We ought to judge the more realistic versions on their own merits.
How old are you? A 50 year old man, coming home after a hard day’s work and then finding that a nap seems appealing is a somewhat different situation, when compared to a 35 year old man doing the same thing. Age will, among other things, sap your energy, but the question of whether it’s happening to an important or surprisingly strong degree is an important one.