First, when a woman finds you physically attractive, she doesn’t like you yet, she just finds you hot. And as per the data above, her next move is not usually to make eye contact, it’s to gather more information somehow. In many cases, she’s observing you, trying to decide if she’s going to signal overtly or not. Whatever she’s looking for… is she going to see it? You’re going to have to attend to that, and some of the best ways to attend to it are by being pleasantly social in ways that, to John, suck ass.
I think this is pretty different from the options that John classified as “suck ass”. The issue with those is doing things that are high cost just to get to the same point:
Spending large amount of time at activities not because you are intrinsically interested in them but because it increases the exposure to women.
Spending a lot of time cold approaching and developing a level of “woo” that makes women interested in you.
Note that even after those, the women will still only be at the information gathering step, so the same basic personal qualities are required anyway. However, one can do it on his own terms, without targetedly changing his hobbies or dealing with the psychological cost of cold approaches.
I don’t think this is necessarily true. There are some very well educated and knowledgeable people who do believe in such things but their epistemics otherwise seem to be unaffected. Currently we have no radical life extension technologies, but what we do have seem to be still used by most religious people. Yeah, there are some who rather die than receive blood transfusion, but on the other hand the pope himself receives top notch medical care, and so do most religious people who can afford it. Most people never learned that “beliefs should pay rent”, and a lot of their weird spiritual beliefs are more of an “idle wheel … can be turned though nothing else moves with it, is not part of the mechanism” (semi-paraphrasing Wittgenstein).
An anecdotal experience I have on this is when a spiritual person described how she multiple times foresaw things in her dreams that came to be later. When I started proposing questions on how she acted on those or proposing test/benefits that could be done in such a case she was utterly surprised, never having considered that spiritual experiences can be used for anything other than talking about them.
I think that is the case for most religious people. Going to church won’t stop them from replacing their organs with cloned ones and reprogramming cells to slow aging. They will still say are prayer and thank god for it.