This reminds me of the book The mind illuminated. When I started reading it I found it fascinating how well it described my own experiences from mediations. But when I got to later chapters I got to the point when I didn’t have direct experience with what was described there and when trying to follow the instructions there I got completely lost in retrospect, they were totally misleading to me back then. Sazen.
The only cure I later found was to only read further when I felt I made a major progress and to read only as long as I had a direct experience with what was described there. It was still helpful as validation and it gave me some important context, but the main learnings had to come from my own explorations.
Not sure if this approach is fully generalizable to everyone’s learning, but it is almost always the case for me when learning a new skill.
Based on about a dozen of Said’s comments I read I don’t expect them to update on what I’m gonna write. But I wanted to formulate my observations, interpretations, and beliefs based on their comments anyway. Mostly for myself and if it’s of value to other people, even better (which Said actually supports in another comment 🙂).
Said refuses to try and see the world via the glasses presented in the OP
In other words, Said refuses to inhabit Aella’s frame
Said denies the existence of the natural concept frame and denies any usefulness of it even if it were a mere fake concept
It seems to me that Said is really confident about their frame and is signaling against inhabiting other people’s frames
It seems to me that Said actually believes there is no value in inhabiting other people’s frames
Everyone has vulnerabilities. Showing them and thus becoming vulnerable doesn’t signal insecurity or submission, actually the opposite. It requires high self-confidence (self-acceptance?) and signals openness and honesty to the other person. The benefit is that it leads to significantly deeper interactions.
And the benefit of inhabiting another one’s frame? If I use the “camera position and orientation” definition of a frame mentioned by Vaniver, inhabiting other person’s frame allows you to see things that may be occluded from your point of view and thus give you new evidence. The least it can give you is a new interpretation of data that you gathered yourself. But it can possibly introduce genuinely new evidence to you, because frames serve as lenses and by making you focus on one thing they also make you subconsciously ignore other things.