How to find a mate when you have really specific tastes:
Think about the kind of fiction your ideal mate would want to read.
Write that kind of fiction.
Start a website compiling your fiction. Hire someone off DeviantArt to illustrate it.
Once you’ve got a decent fanbase, post a message on your website saying that you are looking for a mate.
Read emails from fans who say they want to be your mate.
Why I think this will work: A while ago I posted a romantic/erotic story to Reddit (which is 3⁄4 male). I hadn’t seen the fantasy represented in any romance/erotica I’d ever read, so I figured I was alone in desiring it. Imagine my surprise when two women sent me unsolicited PM’s asking me to role-play.
Find a job that you can do remotely. Camming, tutoring, and hypnosis are low-barrier jobs that fit the bill, but if you have the skills you can do things like consulting or programming.
Move to a country a low cost of living and/or low income tax. Costa Rica has a flat tax of 15% on self-employed workers, and a fairly liberal visa policy for people who work via the Internet. EU citizens should consider Bulgaria, which has a 10% flat tax on self-employed residents and about 1⁄3 the cost of living as the UK.
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