How to find a mate when you have really specific tastes:
Think about the kind of fiction your ideal mate would want to read.
Write that kind of fiction.
Start a website compiling your fiction. Hire someone off DeviantArt to illustrate it.
Once you’ve got a decent fanbase, post a message on your website saying that you are looking for a mate.
Read emails from fans who say they want to be your mate.
Why I think this will work: A while ago I posted a romantic/erotic story to Reddit (which is 3⁄4 male). I hadn’t seen the fantasy represented in any romance/erotica I’d ever read, so I figured I was alone in desiring it. Imagine my surprise when two women sent me unsolicited PM’s asking me to role-play.
Generalized versions of arguments I’ve seen on Reddit and Facebook:
If you oppose a government policy that personally benefits you, you are a hypocrite who bites the hand that feeds you.
If you support the policy that benefits you, you are a greedy narcissist whose loyalty can be bought and sold.
If you have political opinions on policies that don’t affect your well-being, you are meddler with no skin in the game. Without being personally affected by the policy, you cannot hope to understand.