Strong upvoted. I don’t get why people are upset, these stories aren’t even particularly obscene? [1]
As someone who is also into power dynamics, but significantly less skilled than John, I very much appreciate these stories, and would like to see more.
Where else are people supposed to go to discuss kinky sexuality in a level-headed way? (In particular the quality of the discourse I have seen on fetlife seems pretty bad on average.)
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The last one hits kinda hard, but due to the emotional aspect and not due to any obscenity.
Would love to read a top-level post on this topic, because what people preach about consent (“only an enthusiastic verbal “yes” is consent”), and what most people do in practice are worlds apart.
I wish we lived in a world where an enthusiastic verbal “yes” could always be obtained for consent, instead you have to read facial expressions and tone and body language and breathing, etc...
I do like that you always pause and explain safewords and test usage before getting into the more serious stuff (from that point on consent seems pretty clear-cut), but you still have to get to that point with physical escalations where consent is very murky.
(But you also did finger Chesed without verbal consent, just using body language. That seems pretty advanced. If you have a model of what exact body language cues you are looking for to be confident enough that you are not violating her consent by doing that, it would be interesting to read your thoughts on that.)