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People could also not comment about it to the person in question, but satisfy the “cannot resist commenting on it” energy by waiting to be out of earshot and then telling someone else how terrible that person looked. I feel like this would happen a lot more often than giving a fake compliment just out of the need to say something.
I’ve also worn conspicuous clothing before and gotten comments that were more about expressing surprise/amusement rather than being compliments. (I don’t remember the exact words, but sentiments along the lines of “this is the first time I’ve seen someone wear cat ears to work” or whatever.)