There’s nothing rational about refusing to believe data you don’t like, and linking Eliezer doesn’t change that.
It’s good to have an absurdity filter. You can’t investigate every claim on the internet in great detail, so dismissing the more unbelievable ones out of hand is not a bad strategy. But you need some kind of reason. Either a known bias or untrustworthiness of the author, or knowledge that at least some of the claims made are false. Assuming you don’t have some personal beef with the author, I don’t see how you can dismiss this post out of hand. The numbers mentioned are quite reasonable and in line with what you find in other sources.
Also, there’s nothing wrong with conflating two things that are, in fact, identical. Not all child abuse is equally bad, and an occasional spanking won’t greatly harm a child. But it will harm a child. This has been shown often.
Your claim was that child abuse and trauma have barely any influence on adult life. This is clearly an extraordinary claim, that requires evidence to be taken seriously.
Your evidence are three quotations, two of which only contain more links, and the third is about the heritability of divorce, which has nothing to do with your claim.
So in other words you have given zero evidence for your claim. Maybe there is some evidence to be found in one of the many citations you gave, but without knowing which one or what to look for it would take many hours to investigate this. That is not a reasonable burden to place on your readers, given the prior unlikeliness of your initial claim. I’m not saying you should make an airtight case for your claim in a single post, but at the very least you should give us some reason to put in further effort.