I liked the explanation as provided in “Mate: Become The Man Women Want”.
Chapter 17 has a whole section on bars and clubs. In particular:
There are virtually no cultures in history that expected their young people to find mates by throwing them randomly together into dark, noisy, threatening environments, with no structured activities or reasons for interacting, and hoping they’d sort themselves out into viable pairs. Bars and clubs present the exact opposite of a safe, easy, stress-free way to meet potential mates, to display your traits and proofs, and to work your way through a normal courtship process.
Probably very true on one level (but the young need some of that type of random experience to even learn what they want or who they want to be or be with).
But I’m not sure that is relevant for John’s question, but perhaps have taken his query incorrectly and it’s not about just meeting someone new for some unspecified level of commitment, e.g., just a short-term hookup, but is asking about where to meet his next long-term partner.
My primary motivation was actually just to understand how the world works; I didn’t necessarily plan to use that information to meet anyone at all. I just noticed I was confused about something and wanted to figure out what was going on.
TBF I always felt that if you wanted to find someone, “place where you have to make your throat hurt to speak even a few simple words” ain’t it, but I’m not known for my social prowess so I guessed maybe it was just me.
I liked the explanation as provided in “Mate: Become The Man Women Want”.
Chapter 17 has a whole section on bars and clubs. In particular:
Probably very true on one level (but the young need some of that type of random experience to even learn what they want or who they want to be or be with).
But I’m not sure that is relevant for John’s question, but perhaps have taken his query incorrectly and it’s not about just meeting someone new for some unspecified level of commitment, e.g., just a short-term hookup, but is asking about where to meet his next long-term partner.
My primary motivation was actually just to understand how the world works; I didn’t necessarily plan to use that information to meet anyone at all. I just noticed I was confused about something and wanted to figure out what was going on.
TBF I always felt that if you wanted to find someone, “place where you have to make your throat hurt to speak even a few simple words” ain’t it, but I’m not known for my social prowess so I guessed maybe it was just me.
It probably works better if the people you’re trying to hook up with aren’t total strangers—consider a high school dance, or a college frat party...