I am confident about this, so I’m okay with you judging accordingly.
I appreciate your rewrite. I’ll treat it as something to aspire to, in future. I agree that it’s easier to engage with.
I was annoyed when writing. Angry is too strong a word for it though, it’s much more like “Someone is wrong on the internet!”. It’s a valuable fuel and I don’t want to give it up. I recognise that there are a lot of situations that call for hiding mild annoyance, and I’ll try to do it more habitually in future when it’s easy to do so.
There’s a background assumption that maybe I’m wrong to have. If I write a comment with a tone of annoyance, and you disagree with it, it would surprise me if that made you feel bad about yourself. I don’t always assume this, but I often assume it on Lesswrong because I’m among nerds for whom disagreement is normal.
So overall, I think my current guess is that you’re trying to hold me to standards that are unnecessarily high. It seems supererogatory rather than obligatory.
If you wrote a rude comment in response to me, I wouldn’t feel bad about myself, but I would feel annoyed at you. (I feel bad about myself when I think my comments were foolish in retrospect or when I think they were unnecessarily rude in retrospect; the rudeness of replies to me don’t really affect how I feel about myself.) Other people are more likely to be hurt by rude comments, I think.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Tim found your comment frustrating and it made him less likely to want to write things like this in future. I don’t super agree with Tim’s post, but I do think LW is better if it’s the kind of place where people like him write posts like that (and then get polite pushback).
I have other thoughts here but they’re not very important.
(fwiw I agree with Buck that the comment seemed unnecessarily rude and we should probably have less of rudeness on lesswrong, but I don’t feel deterred from posting.)
I am confident about this, so I’m okay with you judging accordingly.
I appreciate your rewrite. I’ll treat it as something to aspire to, in future. I agree that it’s easier to engage with.
I was annoyed when writing. Angry is too strong a word for it though, it’s much more like “Someone is wrong on the internet!”. It’s a valuable fuel and I don’t want to give it up. I recognise that there are a lot of situations that call for hiding mild annoyance, and I’ll try to do it more habitually in future when it’s easy to do so.
There’s a background assumption that maybe I’m wrong to have. If I write a comment with a tone of annoyance, and you disagree with it, it would surprise me if that made you feel bad about yourself. I don’t always assume this, but I often assume it on Lesswrong because I’m among nerds for whom disagreement is normal.
So overall, I think my current guess is that you’re trying to hold me to standards that are unnecessarily high. It seems supererogatory rather than obligatory.
If you wrote a rude comment in response to me, I wouldn’t feel bad about myself, but I would feel annoyed at you. (I feel bad about myself when I think my comments were foolish in retrospect or when I think they were unnecessarily rude in retrospect; the rudeness of replies to me don’t really affect how I feel about myself.) Other people are more likely to be hurt by rude comments, I think.
I wouldn’t be surprised if Tim found your comment frustrating and it made him less likely to want to write things like this in future. I don’t super agree with Tim’s post, but I do think LW is better if it’s the kind of place where people like him write posts like that (and then get polite pushback).
I have other thoughts here but they’re not very important.
(fwiw I agree with Buck that the comment seemed unnecessarily rude and we should probably have less of rudeness on lesswrong, but I don’t feel deterred from posting.)