I’m not talking about what people do when they don’t expect to get caught. I think people blatantly lie and objectify all the time with no social sanction. Maybe they’d be in trouble if you called them on it, but so would you, for bringing it to the verbal sphere.
No, being normal is not inherently moral, but it suggests that there are other factors to weigh against the lying and the objectification, like with the bus driver. (It suggests it to me, but I feel like there’s a missing step I can’t verbalize here.)
I agree with most of what you say here. Probably I shouldn’t have brought up divergence from verbalized rules; that’s a different conversation.