(I’m a regular poster/commenter on LW; I don’t feel comfortable saying this under my real name for various reasons.)
I’m horrified by the fact that some men have sexual kinks like the ones that John describes having. My (m/ hetero/experienced) own sexuality is well-described as a reflection of my identity and values: I’m moderately but not extremely dominant, mostly playful and passionate, and want everyone to have a great time.
My attitude towards John has moved from skepticism to distrust. I wonder if I’ll learn that people can be deeply good while having violent sexual preferences at the same time. Anecdotally, so far I found that men with violent sexual kinks also tend to be slightly creepy in other ways. I did find John a bit creepy when I met him in person some time ago.
(I’m a regular poster/commenter on LW; I don’t feel comfortable saying this under my real name for various reasons.)
I’m horrified by the fact that some men have sexual kinks like the ones that John describes having. My (m/ hetero/experienced) own sexuality is well-described as a reflection of my identity and values: I’m moderately but not extremely dominant, mostly playful and passionate, and want everyone to have a great time.
My attitude towards John has moved from skepticism to distrust. I wonder if I’ll learn that people can be deeply good while having violent sexual preferences at the same time. Anecdotally, so far I found that men with violent sexual kinks also tend to be slightly creepy in other ways. I did find John a bit creepy when I met him in person some time ago.