Yeah, that’s pretty much what I hear from most people. I’m so lucky! It can’t be that I put careful thought into it at that young age. Even when people don’t chalk it all up to chance, their first thought is that I have learned to apply good relationship maintenance (they’re less likely to think that the relationship maintenance is my husband’s doing).
Not that relationship maintenance isn’t important, but I really believe that I have a happy marriage because I had a clear idea of what someone well-suited to be my husband would be like. I’m not sure I’d call it luminosity, but it’s along those lines.
If someone wanted lifetime monogamy, and they got married at a somewhat young age to their first serious romantic partner, and they and their partner were very happy with the relationship for several years, up to and including the present day, what would you expect about this person regarding their relationship skills? Would you guess that they just lucked out, or that they are good at partner selection, or that they are good at relationship maintenance, or all/some/none of those?
If the person attributes their relationship success to very good partner selection skills, would you find that believable?