Just musing on how LW has had a profound impact on my life. It was a strong influence in my deconversion from theism, it’s helped me make significant medical decisions, and I’m in love with someone I met at a LessWrong meetup, as well as another person whose first interaction with me was a Bayes theorem joke.
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Now I am imagining a secret language spoken only by postal workers. :)
The thread seems to be resurrected, so I’ll present myself. :)
I am a cissexual slightly genderqueer exclusively androsexual monogamously married woman. I think about sexuality and orientation a lot. Including my own. I don’t recall ever being sexually or romantically attracted to a woman. Intellectually, monosexuality seems a little weird to me, but nevertheless it seems to describe me. In fact I think of my monosexuality as a gender fetish, but I hesitate to apply that paradigm to other people’s monosexuality.
Some strangely common childhood beliefs:
Everyone except you is a robot
Your life is like the Truman Show
Of course I chose that word because it’s vague. I guess, if I have to narrow it down, it’s a feeling that something is disrespectful.
I think people’s reasons for having kids usually fall into one of the following categories:
It’s what normal people do, so I’ll just go with the flow.
I have an emotional desire for a parent-child relationship.
I want someone to take care of me when I’m old.
I want an extension of myself to provide me with a kind of proxy immortality.
It might be more obvious why I find 1, 3, and 4 to be disrespectful? So I’ll just talk about 2, which I suspect includes the kind of “liking kids” that you are talking about.
Imagine that, from now on, as soon as a baby is born, it will be instantly granted certain benefits. The baby is given the size, strength, and agility of an adult. They get the intellectual capacity of an adult. They get an assortment of knowledge and skills implanted into their minds, well-suited to independent living in their society, and proof of having those skills. They get the wisdom, rationality, and emotional skills of an adult. But they do not get any episodic memories implanted. They don’t come pre-loaded with any emotional attachments to specific people, which is just fine, because they have great emotional and self-care skills to support them as they meet various people and decide who they want to form relationships with.
Does this even count as a child anymore? Would a relationship with this person satisfy the parental desire in #2? I bet it wouldn’t. All because the person is no longer weaker or more incompetent than the “parent”, and is free to form emotional attachments of their choice based on getting to know people. Liking kids, specifically as kids, usually amounts to liking the weakness and vulnerability of kids. I have heard some people say that what they like about kids is their “innocence” but I don’t believe in this innocence thing, except as a euphemism for ignorance. I cannot think of a single thing about my child psyche which was better than my adult psyche. My child self was more trusting, which I bet many adults liked, but I think my current state of being less trusting is better, and therefore the fact that those adults liked that about me was disrespectful—it was liking my weakness. Some adults may have enjoyed teaching me things. That is a case of them enjoying my ignorance.
I’m not so put off by people wanting to adopt kids, because they see a need that they feel well-suited to fill. But creating a brand-new kid because you want a relationship specifically with a small, weak, ignorant person who is almost guaranteed to love you? Icky.
The episodic nature of this story is wearing on me a bit. I’m not talking about wanting to know what happens and having to wait for that knowledge to be doled out bit by bit. That’s pretty much fine. It’s the feeling that there’s a grand overarching plot that’s being distracted from by Plots of the Month. Even if the PotM do contribute to the overall plot—and they probably do—it feels like they do so in a rather meandering, patchwork way. Where’s my beloved “use science to figure out the nature of magic, and use that to cure death for everyone” plotline? Will we finally get back to it now that Hermione’s dead?
Reminds me of cuddle parties, and also #7 and #8 here.
Not one of my favorites. I’m tempted to stick this one in a mental category called “Eliezer’s BDSM Posts”—you know, the ones where he says he likes to imagine living in a world where various things are deliberately made difficult/painful/scary and everyone goes around wearing black leather vests (ok, I made up the part about the vests). Also a lot of his fun theory posts would go in this category.
Are time-turners really not turing computable? Is Harry ever going to figure out what allows magic to (seem to?) break the laws of physics? Is “we’re living in a simulation” eliminated as a possibility?
It’s posted in the hpmor.com author’s note due to FFN being unresponsive: http://hpmor.com/notes/83/
I thought there were violent baboons added to the group?
Only one of the males now in the troupe had been through the event. All the rest were new, and hadn’t been raised in the tribe. The new males had come from the violent, dog-eat-dog world of normal baboon-land.
Huh, I missed that. I thought it was EY’s way of dropping in a cultural tidbit about the wizarding world, where a transsexual girl is naturally thought of by everyone as a girl, though they all know that she makes her body the way it is by being a metamorphmagus, and she reverts to her non-metamorphed form when she’s startled. Then I started wondering what non-metamorphmagus trans people would do. Maybe there are permanent sex-change potions. Or perhaps temporary ones that you have to keep taking, like polyjuice but without copying anyone. Or maybe all trans wizards are metamorphmagi, but I doubt it.
So Draco will have to build political power without the benefit of growing up in Slytherin. I wonder if Lucius will try to influence other families to pull their kids out of Hogwarts too?
“A rationalist!hero should excel by thinking—moreover, thinking in understandable patterns that readers can, in principle, adopt for themselves.”—Eliezer
I think Harry is supposed to be a rationalist!hero. I think he’s supposed to succeed in the end. The fact that he also has the potential to be very dangerous and destructive is, I think, just about the dangers of power itself, and the importance of ethics + reason in making decisions. Especially when you have something to protect.
I think Harry’s ethics are actually not too far from EY’s. Of course he has ethical failures and character flaws, and that pesky dark side, but he’s mostly headed in the right direction. And though he’s quite unusual, he doesn’t have some sort of inhuman psychology. A protagonist’s quirks are often exaggerated, because stories have to shout.
I don’t think he represents an AI at all.
A kind of uncomfortably funny video about turning yourself bisexual, a topic that’s come up a few times here on LW. http://youtu.be/zqv-y5Ys3fg
What if you’re wired in such a way that, when you strike up a romance with someone, the New Relationship Energy wipes out your romantic feelings for everyone else, and only when the NRE has run its course do romantic feelings for other people return? Is that something you can self-modify out of, or otherwise deal with in a polyamorous context?
If someone wanted lifetime monogamy, and they got married at a somewhat young age to their first serious romantic partner, and they and their partner were very happy with the relationship for several years, up to and including the present day, what would you expect about this person regarding their relationship skills? Would you guess that they just lucked out, or that they are good at partner selection, or that they are good at relationship maintenance, or all/some/none of those?
If the person attributes their relationship success to very good partner selection skills, would you find that believable?
I was confused by the way he was using the term “non-determinism”. Then I read this:
It’s important to understand that computer scientists use the term “nondeterministic” differently from how it’s typically used in other sciences. A nondeterministic TM is actually deterministic in the physics sense
-Theoretical Computer Science Stack Exchange
Assuming that person was correct, then it seems like Aaronson is responding to an argument that uses the physics sense of “non-determined”, but replying with the CS sense—which I’m thinking makes a difference in this case. But that’s just what it seems like to me—I must be misunderstanding something (probably a lot of things).
I don’t think the OP said they wanted to be top priority for all their partners.
Every time I have ever pointed out specific things I don’t like in answer to “Why won’t you date me?” (back when I was available) the guy has used my reply to insist that he will change and beg for another chance. Then I have to say, “No, I don’t believe you will ever change in that way, and even if you did it wouldn’t be anytime soon, and offering to change yourself for me is really weird.” And then he argues that no, he can change right away, it’s no trouble, please give him a chance. It’s terribly unpleasant. I stopped giving specific answers, and instead said things like, “I guess we just don’t have the right chemistry.” Actually I think that’s a perfectly good and honest answer, and it’s the one that’s always true even when there’s no specific thing I can put my finger on.
I can’t pick out exactly what about someone turns me on or doesn’t turn me on because it’s subconscious, it’s my subconscious mind processing a million details all at once, and even when a person does have, say, bad BO, that’s just something that I was actually able to notice consciously so I might think of that as The Reason but once they fix their BO, all the other stuff, the millions of details only my subconscious picks up, those will still be there and the person will be pissed that the “fix” didn’t work. So I think actually giving a specific reason, or even two or three, is not as honest as just saying chalking it up to “chemistry” (which of course is shorthand for “it’s too complex and subconscious to explain”).
If I really wanted to try explaining a lack of chemistry, I’d probably be able to do no better than, “Some things about you, especially your para-language but other aspects of your behavior as well, though I can’t put my finger on them, rub me the wrong way, or at least inspire no romantic response in me.” Would anyone really find that helpful?