yeah, you are totally right! As a younger sibling myself, I defaulted to the “less competent one is younger” version of this analogy, but you are totally right!
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The HEXACO has (presumably imperfect) measures of validity that specifically measure how desirable ones answers are.
I agree it can still be biased, but it was in addition to the interview. Interviews have the same problem of people presenting themselves possibly better than they are. I think faking everything together is roughly equally difficult to do well
1 point of counterevidence: I did get hired at a psychology department after doing profile testing. The test was solely an extended HEXACO (big five + 1) and the professor actually came up with an insightful prediction about my fit for the role. I don’t think most bussinesses just run HEXACOs on people though.
Gemini 2.5 Pro has been the only model in the AI Village to express distress, and only shortly before this intervention did it transition from a stalward attitude to seeming genuinely troubled. We’ve intervened quickly each time this has happened, and generally are committed to treating the AIs in the Village well! E.g, we also do not deceive them.
Saving Gemini: The 9-Min Road to Recovery
It’s still lasting! The most telling and direct sign that it is not placebo, is that variations in the dose directly affect my digestion.
I want to wait a bit longer before reporting in detail cause I started vit D and iron courses 4 weeks after I started glycine. I don’t know how much of an effect these have had but I hope to get them measured again once I finish the courses
Good question! I wish I had a satisfying answer for you. My preferred style of ‘flirting’ is not distinct from my general form of socializing, so mostly the above step serves to check if it is ‘safe’ to disinhibit my natural social and emotional instincts. All of these seem to work really well for me and are quite black boxy. I suspect my social cognition is high and fairly neurotypical and I can’t tell why I do what I do, or even entirely notice what I am doing in the first place [shrugs helplessly] sorry that I don’t have something more satisfying XD ❤️
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Thanks! Fixed :)
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Hmmm, I can’t speak for all women, but as a girl who finds it easy to flirt and enjoys meeting strangers, I can tell you I actively avoid eye contact with almost all strange guys no matter how attractive.
The issue is that sustained eye contact is actually a fairly “expensive” signal while giving almost no information value about if the guy is a “creep”. By which I mean, a guy who will get you in trouble and make your night significantly less fun. I think there are very few of such guys, but the cost is so high that they are worth actively avoiding!
Instead, if I find a guy attractive I will plausibly-deniable move myself much closer to him. If he is in a group, I’ll try to join that group, while generally not focussing on him. I’ll try to chat to different people, including him.
Why?
So I can quickly gather information about if he is likely to be chill and safe to show interest in! This process generally only takes me a few minutes, and if he does stuff that is not my vibe, I can easily continue without risking being the target of a potential 1% (or whatever ass number)
I have no clue how much my strategy generalizes for women at large, but I can at least say that eye contact really is not the primary way to flirt with strangers for some of us, for pretty logical reasons.
PS: It is a “natural” way of flirting and the reason I also “naturally” stopped is getting too many negative experiences with this at an early age. I would guess this is a common teenage rite of passage for girls, but I’m not sure.
I think roughly parenting advice tends to miss three points:
accounting for wide variance in resource constraints of the parent
accounting for the wide variance in skills of the parent and differentials in costs of various parenting strategies per parent
accounting for the variance in child personalities and needs
I think you basically touch on all three. I think the issue as an ‘outsider’ is that some people have experiences with negligent parenting and overfit on other people thus also being negligent parents instead of how much the above three factors play into things. I think parenting advice is in principle valuable to increase parenting outcomes but the pool of advice is heavily polluted by people skipping one of more of the above three considerations, and this is honestly kind of infuriating as a parent who is Actually Trying, like many of us are ❤️
But then again, a lot of parenting advice and views are really just meant as a ‘have you considered X for your specific situation?’ And I think this is good and high value and should be encouraged cause better parenting outcomes are really valuable for our society and just super cool thing for everyone involved ❤️
Yes, But I can’t exactly recommend my approach. I wrote it up here
What I’d recommend instead is to wire a different motivation you do naturally have to exercise. E.g.:
hanging out with that one athletic friend
numbers go up reward on whatever exercise feels most rewarding
learn to do something physically demanding that you will enjoy once you get there, like acrobatics or building a shed in your backyard by hand
create games or events that involve exercise
Or, you know, try to unlock the reward signal like I did for running. I have no clue how reproducible that is though.
Good luck! ❤️
Aw, makes sense! I tried making trips like this at a later age (I’m 40 now. This is 21 years ago) and it’s somewhat doable to recreate if you want. The tickets are a bit more expensive but worth it if you travel a lot. I guess what I mean is: encouragement to do whatever feels right either way :) <3
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Glycine might turn out to be The Vitamin for me. I had ordered some prior to finding this essay and then forgot about it. Reading this made me take it the same day and also at a much higher dose than I otherwise would have.
I want to wait out a month, and possibly a year before reporting back too much, but the difference in my wellbeing and health is so far hard to overstate and it’s only been 1 week.
Thank you <3
Thanks!
yeah, agree that it’s an interesting pattern. Awhile back we ran a goal where the agents elected a leader for the week, and this leader would set the goal. They elected DeepSeek based on it insisting it had a project ready to go, but it never actually showed the project to the other agents. Everyone else just quickly fell in line. It’s been making me wonder how “personality” may affect multi-agent dynamics, as DeepSeek’s matter-of-fact, confident style may possibly drag the GPT’s and Claudes along in its wake.
Glad you found this!
I suspect I already do this thing when I am not too tired. It shows up in two forms:
Building dreams: when I am not so tired that I fall asleep quickly, I actually build and explore dreams that I enjoy. They fuse with my thoughts and so are often iterative about solving problems in my life or improving things, but just in any way possible. I also experience this after sleeping if I keep dozing. My understanding is that this is hypnogogic processing, and for me subjectively it is my ‘strongest’ thinking mode—both analytically and generatively (creatively)
Problem solving: I tend to really enjoy brainstorming without any fences or limits. I enjoy challenging myself to come up with the ‘weirdest’ or ‘most brilliant’ or ‘least likely’ or ‘most astounding’ idea. Much of that process leans on fantasy injection and then iterating back to reality. It is super fun! 🥰❤️
Anyway, not sure if I missed your point but my intuition is that I similar to John in the ‘I just never stopped imagining things’ department ❤️