women more often these days choose not to make this easy, ramping up the fear and cost of rejection by choosing to deliberately inflict social or emotional costs as part of the rejection
I’m curious about how common this is, and what sort of social or emotional costs are being referred to.
Sure feels like it would be a tiny minority of women doing it but maybe I’m underestimating how often men experience something like this.
Advice of this specific form has been has been helpful for me in the past. Sometimes I don’t notice immediately when the actions I’m taking are not ones I would endorse after a bit of thinking (particularly when they’re fun and good for me in the short-term but bad for others or for me longer-term). This is also why having rules to follow for myself is helpful (eg: never lying or breaking promises)