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Great points. I think a lot of people yearn for some ultimate form of communication that is unmoored to and unencumbered by social norms and Overton windows and emotions, and thus much more efficient at transmitting information.
But that form of communication is (a) simply inhuman, and (b) not that much more efficient.
Wrapping your ideas in a thin veneer of politeness is similar to encoding them in words. It’s fuzzy and non-optimal, yes, but it’s just how humans transmit information. It’s not possible to fully mentally separate idea criticisms from personal attacks, even for those who try very hard to do that. So if you want to communicate more effectively, you put in a little extra effort to make it clear that you’re talking about ideas and not people.
The cost of the veneer varies depending on the social acceptance of the idea being transmitted but it’s really not very costly most of the time, especially when you weigh it by how much it improves your transmission ability. If you want to get better at convincing people of your out-there ideas, being polite about them is the lowest hanging fruit.