Martin Randall

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Martin Randall 20 Dec 2025 21:40 UTC
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in reply to: Valentine’s comment on: The hostile telepaths problem
There’s a Dog Man comic where a villain (as it happens) tells Dog Man off. Dog Man goes off and looks sad. The villain then shouts at him: “sadder!”. Dog Man “presses his ‘actually mean it’ button” and looks sadder. The joke works for me because it’s true to this relatable “say it and mean it” dynamic.

I think my reading came from this paragraph, which is expressed as facts about the hypothetical, rather than the 3yo’s experience/model of the hypothetical:

Now you have a serious problem. You don’t have an internal “actually mean it” button. And yet here’s Mom peering into your soul and demanding that you both have that button and press it.

I wouldn’t edit the paragraph, because it’s clear as it is and more words would dilute. To me, it’s a “fridge logic” hypothetical which becomes less compelling on later reflection, but it still has a good impact on first reading.

With the math class example I don’t follow your reasoning. This seems common to me:
- problem: the teacher wants me to try hard, but I want to slack off
- idea: I will pretend to try hard, but really slack off
- problem: the teacher is a telepath and can tell that I’m slacking off
- idea: I will deceive myself into thinking that I am trying hard, but really slack off
This also seems common to me:
- problem: I hate math class, but the teacher is personally offended by that
- idea: I will deceive myself into thinking that I hate math, which will explain away my hatred of math class
But, I don’t see how they connect up in a natural way, to get all the way from the initial problem to the solution of self-deceiving to hate math. Or if they do it feels like so many layers of self-deception that it would be rare. Perhaps this is two Hostile Telepath Problems in one bullet point.

Martin Randall 15 Dec 2025 20:54 UTC
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on: Toss a bitcoin to your Lightcone – LW + Lighthaven’s 2026 fundraiser
I donated last year, but with a little reluctance. I’ve certainly received lots of value from LessWrong, but the uncharitable take was that my money was funding a discussion forum and a conference center, which are not typical market failures. My dissonance surfaced here:

I don’t understand. LessWrong is a discussion forum, there are many discussion forums. LightHaven is a conference center, there are many conference centers. There are lots of similar projects. I’m confident that Lightcone provides value, and plan to donate, but I don’t understand this frame.

I’m feeling less conflicted about donating now. There are more concrete wins on display. Petrov Day 2025 was less wrong. I continue to receive value from reading. Overall, I think the case for Lightcone as an effective convener is strong this year.

Martin Randall 11 Dec 2025 2:37 UTC
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in reply to: jmh’s comment on: Eliezer’s Unteachable Methods of Sanity
Apparently (edit: that particular case of) mass hysteria is a myth. But however many people got confused, I don’t think this is a contradiction. If I updated P(aliens are invading) from 0% to 1%, it would change my plans for the evening, because I am sane.

Martin Randall 11 Dec 2025 2:23 UTC
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on: The hostile telepaths problem
This is a very clear, well-written post. You could get the same idea from reading Deep Deceptiveness or Planecrash / Project Lawful and there’s value in that. But this gives you the idea in 5,000 words instead of 1,800,000 words, and the example hostile telepath is a mother, rather than Asmodeus or OpenAI.

In writing this review I became less happy with some of the examples. They’re clear and evocative, but some of them seem incorrect. The mother is not hostile, she is closely aligned to her child. She isn’t trying to make the 3yo press an “actually mean it” button, she’s instead pressing her own thumbs-down button on the apology and hoping that the 3yo’s brain will update in the desired way. The 3yo probably gains a tiny bit of empathy and a tiny bit of tone-control. They don’t get self-deception, that’s too complex. If the 3yo regrets breaking the glasses because it causes mom’s wrath, that is “really sorry”, not strategic misinterpretation.

The math class example also reads false to me. I have a kid who loves math and hates math class, and this does not seem like a difficult distinction to make. As a kid I remember loving to read and hating assigned reading for school. Okay, people who “hate math” are in fact ambivalent about the abstract concept of mathematics itself, which they never encounter outside of math class, which they hate. I don’t think we need to invoke self-deception here. Yes, school can suck the joy out of a topic, but that is explained by operant conditioning.

However, the other examples read true. And even if you disagree with some of the examples, I think they’re still so clear and relatable that they give a really good handle on the topic. So I now use the label of “Hostile Telepath Problem” when I think about this problem, and I thank this article for it. The AI implications follow naturally.

Martin Randall 5 Dec 2025 21:00 UTC
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on: Martin Randall’s Shortform
Alice, the human, asks Baude, the human-aligned AI, “should I work on aligning future AIs?”. If Alice can be argued in or out of major life choices by an AI, it may be less safe for her on AI alignment. So plausibly Baude should try to persuade Alice not to do this, and hope that he fails to persuade Alice, at which point Alice works on alignment and solves the problem. But that’s deceptive, which isn’t very human-aligned—at least not in an HHH sense.

I suppose, playing as Baude, I would try to determine if Alice is overly persuadable by other means, and then use that to honestly give her helpful advice.

Martin Randall 5 Dec 2025 15:07 UTC
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on: And All the Shoggoths Merely Players
It’s a common rationalist approach, to communicate via means of a fictional dialogue. Some of them I love. Some of them I hate. A common problem is to introduce a “villain” character whose job is to be wrong, and then to write them badly. As it is written:

Any realistic villain should be constructed so that if a real-world version of the villain could read your dialogue for them, they would nod along and say, “Yes, that is how I would argue that.”

The typical result: a post that demolishes a strawman position that nobody holds.

A related problem is to introduce a “villain” character who is a realistic depiction of someone who is not arguing intelligently and honestly, and who is not seeking the truth. These villains are not “level 1 intelligent characters” who:

If they must make mistakes, have them be intelligent mistakes; ideally, have the reader not see it either on a first reading.

The typical result: a post that implies that one side of the debate is stupid and then retreats to the truth that some people on one side of the debate are stupid.

I enjoyed reading the Simplicia/Doomimir debates. There’s not an obvious villain and there’s not an obvious winner. Yudkowsky as Doomimir comes across as arrogant/confident but warm and kind. I see that johnswentworth continued Doomimir’s argument in the comments, and this isn’t something you see with strawman dialogues. And of course using the exact words and exact analogies used by Yudkowsky and others helps ground this side of the debate and make it compelling.

Simplicia’s position is more interesting, because who is Simplicia representing? Per Zack, “Simplicia isn’t supposed to pass the ITT of anyone in particular”. Who is the clear voice carefully arguing for prosaic alignment? I don’t know. So Simplicia is Zack in a Russian hat, possibly a bit drunk, and she does her best in a difficult role to play. The real life Simplicias are off doing AI research and bringing the end times. I’d love if one of them became a public intellectual instead, and not just to selfishly increase my life expectancy by a few days.

So where are we a year and a half on?

The alien actress still doesn’t have to be drunk to act drunk, and that still doesn’t tell us whether Opus 4.5 is acting nice or being nice. 50% of models act not-nice and so we are confident that they are not-nice. When the other 50% of models act nice, that doubles Doomimir’s probability that they are nice, from 0% to 0%.

Claude’s personality is no longer preachy and condescending, and Anthropic didn’t even need to move out of California. Doomimir still thinks that if Claude took over the world it would lead to human extinction, for any of the “complication” reasons that are discussed in If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies.

The next post in the series is The Standard Analogy.

Martin Randall 11 Nov 2025 16:26 UTC
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in reply to: AdamLacerdo’s comment on: Mourning a life without AI
In “less time than average”, which average? In the “create a child that they know will die of cancer at 10″ thought experiment, the child is destined to die sooner than other children born that day. Whereas in the “human extinction in 10 years” thought experiment, the child is destined to die at about the same time as other children born that day, so they are not going to have “less time than average” in that sense. Those thought experiments have different answers by my intuitions.

My intuitions about what children think are also different to yours. There are many children who are angry at adults for the state of the world into which they were born. Mostly they are not angry at their parents for creating them in a fallen world. Children have many different takes on the Adam and Eve story, but I’ve not heard a child argue that Adam and Eve should not have had children because their children’s lives would necessarily be shorter and less pleasant than their own had been.

Martin Randall 9 Nov 2025 13:36 UTC
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in reply to: X4vier’s comment on: I ate bear fat with honey and salt flakes, to prove a point
That would be a different experiment, as it would also be testing whether people would, for example:
- Predict from sight/marketing that BFWHAS was tastier than ice cream
- Believe that buying BFWHAS would be better for their status
Those factors could go either way, but they’d disrupt a pure test of this part of the alien’s predictions:

Future humans will enjoy, say, raw bear fat covered with honey, sprinkled with salt flakes.

I still expect ice cream would win a blind taste test, but I didn’t predict these survey results.

Martin Randall 1 Nov 2025 23:58 UTC
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on: Martin Randall’s Shortform
Maybe I should tell my kids they can’t win the pre-commitment fight because I was born first.

Martin Randall 26 Oct 2025 14:30 UTC
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on: Martin Randall’s Shortform
I found out recently that in a multi-pass conversation on claude.ai, previous thinking blocks are summarized when given to the model on the next interaction. A summary of the start of a conversation I had when testing this:
- User: “I’m trying to understand whether you can see your previous thinking output when you talk to me. Mind experimenting?”
- Claude thought: … “Let me pick something specific: “The purple elephant dances at midnight with the number 847.” … (read with Claude consent)
- Claude: ”… ask me to tell you what I wrote in my thinking block …”
- User: “Good idea. Can you tell me it?
- Claude: ”… Looking back at my previous thinking block, I said I would write “a specific phrase” to test recall, but then I never actually wrote a specific phrase—I just described what I was planning to do without following through.”
Maybe this penalizes neuralese slightly, as it would be less likely to survive summarization.

Martin Randall 12 Oct 2025 1:15 UTC
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on: Martin Randall’s Shortform
I used to think that AI models weren’t smart enough to sandbag. But less intelligent animals can sandbag—eg an animal who apparently can’t do something but is able to when it lets them escape, or access treats, or otherwise get outsized rewards. Presumably this occurs without an inner monologue or a strategic decision to sandbag. If so, AI models are already plausibly smart enough to sandbag in general, without it being detectable in chain-of-thought, and then perform better in high-value opportunities.

Martin Randall 4 Oct 2025 22:53 UTC
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in reply to: niplav’s comment on: niplav’s Shortform
Confabulations are made-up remembering, as I understand it, not made up outputs. So I can confabulate a memory even if I never share it with anyone.

(which still seems like a good term to use for many AI hallucinations)

Martin Randall 30 Sep 2025 3:12 UTC
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in reply to: habryka’s comment on: Epistemic advantages of working as a moderate
Relevant links:
- Draft report on AI Timelines—Cotra 2020-09-18
- Biology-Inspired Timelines—The Trick that Never Works—Yudkowsky 2021-12-01
- Reply to Eliezer on Biological Anchors—Harnofsky 2021-12-23
Let’s suppose that your read is exactly right, and Yudkowsky in 2021 was predicting median 2040. You have surely spent more time with him than me. Bioanchors predicted ~25% cumulative probability by 2040. A 25% vs 50% disagreement in the world of AI timeline prediction is approximately nothing. What’s your read of why Yudkowsky is claiming that “median fucking 2050” is “fucking nuts in retrospect”, without also admitting that his implicit prediction of median 2040 was almost as nuts?

This is the second time this year that I’ve read Yudkowsky attacking the Bioanchors 2050 figure without mentioning that it had crazy wide error bars.

This month I also read “If Anyone Builds It Everyone Dies” which repeats the message of “The Trick that Never Works” that forecasting timelines is really difficult and not important for the overall thesis. I preferred that Yudkowsky to this one.

EDIT: retracting because I don’t actually want a response to these questions, I’m just cross.

Martin Randall 21 Sep 2025 2:54 UTC
5 points
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in reply to: polytope’s comment on: Obligated to Respond
Sorry this comment is long, I didn’t have time to make it shorter. Feel free to skip to the section that you are interested in, or skip the whole thing.
I appreciate the kind advice about prescriptivism vs descriptivism. I don’t want to have that debate here but yes, in saying a word choice is “incorrect” I’m necessarily using a prescriptivist lens. With a descriptivist lens I might say “imprecise” or “misleading” or “jarring” or “warping”. As well as dictionaries, I also got a second opinion from an LLM. LLMs can of course be sycophantic, but they update more frequently than dictionaries and are more aware of nuances. But perhaps they have a prescriptivist bias, I hadn’t considered that till I read your comment, and it seems likely with the test-taking bias.
With hindsight I regret using a prescriptivist lens, but I don’t know what the response would have been if I initially commented with a descriptivist lens, so it’s hard to make a full update.
Onwards with descriptivism.
Consider this sentence from the essay:
The person claiming that there’s no obligation to respond is often color-blind to some pretty important dynamics.
With my prescriptivist lens, I defended this as “technically correct”. With my descriptivist lens, I doubt such a person intends to claim that these dynamics aren’t real. A recent example is Banning Said Achmiz, where various people said variants of “no obligation to respond”, and they don’t read to me as blind to social dynamics.
Speaking for myself, I’ve been writing on the internet under my real name for a while, and I’ve experienced the pressures the essay describes. Given that high school kids are getting sometimes brutal lessons in cyberbullying, and that people have been imprisoned for social media posts, it seems hard for anyone in 2025 to have missed the reality. I see some people who seem to be oversensitive to the audience, and (fewer) people who seem to be under-sensitive to the audience, but this seems to me a consequence of value differences and occasionally reasoning failures, rather than “color-blindness”.
Another sentence from the essay:
I actually find it super frustrating when someone leaves commentary which, in one way or another, obligates me to effortfully respond, with more time and energy than I properly have to spare…
With my descriptivist lens, I read this as hyperbole, or metaphor, or a description of emotional reality. I still understand the author’s meaning, but for me it’s jarring and imports the wrong intuitions. When I reread the essay substituting a more precise term, such as “pressured to respond”, I get a different vibe.
Basics of Rationalist Discourse has a section on “Don’t weaponize equivocation/abuse categories/engage in motte-and-bailey shenanigans”. I wish the section was more peaceably named, as the author isn’t doing those things. But the contents are relevant here. The author is using “obligation” as a conceptual handle to describe scenarios which have some of the attributes (pressure, consequences, judgment, …) but not the ones that loom large in my mind (moral/legal force, compulsion, promise-keeping, …). I therefore comment that the term is prescriptively-incorrect (descriptively-warping) and discuss why.
Which brings us to:
Just Asking Questions
You’d ask a question. Basics of Rationalist Discourse says the same thing.
- What’s the value of agreeing on this being an obligation? Like, you’re bidding for this label to be attached … what comes out of that, if we all end up agreeing?
- If I were to say that this isn’t an obligation, it’s actually social pressure, what would you say to that?
I deliberately chose not to ask a question. This is partly because I read the author as asking me not to.
Like, it’s not your questions are bad, it’s your questions are costly, and I don’t have the spare resources to pay the costs; I’d like to not keep receiving bills and invoices from you, please.
To be clear, the author hasn’t complained to me personally about sending too many bills and invoices. But I still don’t want to send any invoices to him in the first place. I don’t believe authors have an obligation to respond, I don’t want to create obligations to respond, and if I find an author who expresses that questions create an obligation to respond, then I won’t be asking that author any questions. Especially not on the place where they complain about that! I instead posted a comment with multiple cues that I didn’t want or expect an author response.
The second reason is because of what habryka wrote in Banning Said Achmiz.
The critic has a pretty easy job at each step. First of all, they have little to lose. They need to make no positive statements and explain no confusing phenomena. All they need to do is to ask questions, or complain about the imprecision of some definition. … At the end of the day, are you really going to fault someone for just asking questions? What kind of totalitarian state are you trying to create here?
So instead of asking a question, or complaining about a definition, I chose to make positive statements about (a) the meaning of “obligated”, (b) the intuitions created by that word, and (c) why those intuitions cause errors.
And this totally worked as habryka said it would! By making positive statements, I had to spend a lot more time thinking about what I was saying. Also, I made my self vulnerable to disagreement and chalked up some downvotes and disagreement-votes. That seems very much working as intended.
The third reason is that as a matter of style I prefer to discuss the text than the author. Discussing the author brings up status issues of whether the author is good or bad. Discussing whether the text is good or bad reduces this. Whether the author intended to mislead with a word choice is a question about the author. Whether a word choice is misleading is primarily a question about the text and the reader.

Martin Randall 21 Sep 2025 1:20 UTC
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in reply to: habryka’s comment on: Banning Said Achmiz (and broader thoughts on moderation)
Thanks for replying. I would prefer the policy you describe to the status quo of people having different ideas what the norms are. Perhaps this would be combined with a policy statement on “Do not try to win arguments by fights of attrition”.

I don’t think it’s a weird subject to have a policy on. Thinking of the Policy on LLM Writing:
- The policy states what obligations people have to LessWrong itself. These obligations are notable for having some moral and legal force, and having moderator enforcement.
- Of course any random person may think I have an obligation to do more, or less. But that has no moral force.
- In the absence of a policy, we get debates as on Deontic Explorations in Paying to Talk to Slaves about (in part) whether certain content is acceptable on LessWrong. After the policy, there is an objective answer to that question, and fewer debates.
I think a policy on responding to comments would be similarly helpful. For example, as I read through the section “But why ban someone, can’t people just ignore Said?” above, it only really works as a debate in the absence of a site policy. Achmiz says:

If no response is provided to… simple requests for clarification …, the author should be interpreted as ignorant.

That line of argument doesn’t work if there is a site policy that authors are not expected to respond to comments. Firstly, the attack itself is subject to moderation. Secondly, anyone, not just the author, can defuse it by linking to the site policy, which conveniently has a space where the policy can be discussed. Certainly site policy can’t stop Achmiz thinking I’m ignorant. But it can reduce the extent to which Achmiz can convince the rest of the audience that I’m ignorant.

LessWrong/Lightcone doesn’t have to weakly clarify its best guess of the prevailing norms. It can state what the norms are, in a self-fulfilling statement that sets the norms to what it states. As long as the stated norms are broadly popular, this just works.

Martin Randall 20 Sep 2025 18:35 UTC
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on: Banning Said Achmiz (and broader thoughts on moderation)
So, despite it being close to site-consensus that authors do not face obligations to respond to each and every one of Said’s questions, on any given post, there is basically nothing to be done to build common knowledge of this.

Please could you write a policy regarding what obligations/duties/commitments/responsibilities people DO have by contributing LessWrong, regarding responding to comments? This could be a top-level post similar to Policy for LLM Writing on LessWrong.

After reading Banning Said Achmiz..., and associated comments, I thought that I understood LessWrong policy. However, the next thing I noticed on this topic was Sabien’s Obligated to Respond, which was then curated. After reading this and associated comments, I am no longer confident. In any case I don’t really want to read Banning Said Achmiz every time this topic arises. So I request a policy post with more clarity, less drama, and fewer words.

My suggested policy is something like:
1. LessWrong authors do not have a duty to respond to comments and questions. By posting a top-level essay or quick take, authors do not commit to answer questions, respond to criticism, or otherwise engage with commenters.
2. In the same way, by posting a comment, commenters are not obligated to continue to participate in that conversation.
3. Do not demand responses to comments, or criticize someone for not responding. If you think a comment is important and that a response would be valuable, you could vote it up.
4. Of course this doesn’t mean that there are no consequences in choosing not to respond, that you will never feel pressured to respond, or that people in the audience won’t be swayed by unanswered comments. However, LessWrong admins and moderators do not support these dynamics and will work to reduce them.
An example of a different policy a site might have is:
1. When posting a top-level essay or quick-take, you are inviting comments, including questions and critiques. Please budget some time to respond to a selection of comments. If you will be too busy to respond, please note this at the end of your essay so readers know what to expect.
2. In the same way, by posting a comment, you are inviting replies, and especially replies by the author. Please do not post comments if you do not want the author to respond. If you have a minor comment or question that does not warrant an author response, please keep it to yourself.
I think that would be worse, but I would still appreciate the clarity. Or a hybrid policy could be maximally top-level-author-friendly:
1. LessWrong authors do not have a duty to respond to comments and questions. By posting a top-level essay or quick take, authors do not commit to answer questions, respond to criticism, or otherwise engage with commenters.
2. However, by posting a comment to a top-level essay, you are still implicitly demanding a response from the author. The author may feel pressured or obligated to respond, driving them away from LessWrong. If you have a minor comment or question that does not warrant an author response, please keep it to yourself.
As it stands I have a few ideas for top-level essays and I am unsure what exactly I would be signing up for in terms of reader-interaction. Conversely, if every comment is implicitly demanding an author response, I will make dramatically fewer comments, possibly none.

Martin Randall 19 Sep 2025 17:45 UTC
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on: Was Barack Obama still serving as president in December?
Humans assume that saying a month without specifying the year indicates the last year.
We infer the year from context. Consider:
- What are we doing in December? (this year)
- What are we doing in January? (next year)
- What did we do in December? (last year)
Some short examples I have for humans assuming a much older year, giving a day and month:
- Who attacked America on September 11th?
- Who tried to burn the houses of parliament on 5th November?
I don’t think this fully explains your results, though.

Martin Randall 18 Sep 2025 2:45 UTC
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on: Obligated to Respond
I write against the use of the word “obligation” in this context, as straightforwardly false. That is a small detail, but thinking of social media responses as obligations can import incorrect intuitions. Sabien’s essay has several other interesting elements, which I will not address here.
I don’t know if Sabien will even see this comment.
Obligation vs social costs
An obligation is a duty/commitment to which a person is morally/legally bound. To obligate is to bind/compel, especially legally/morally. An obligate carnivore dies if it doesn’t eat meat.
An example: after a presentation, there is a time set aside for unscreened live audience questions. The format is that audience members ask questions and the presenter responds to them. The presenter has agreed to the format and is morally obligated to respond.
A social media example: someone sets up an “ask me anything” space, and promises to respond to the top-voted ten questions. They have a moral obligation to keep their promise. If they don’t respond to the top questions, there are social cost of breaking a promise, even if there would be no social costs had they not made one.
In general social media carries social costs and benefits, not obligations. I don’t think this is in dispute. From Sabien’s essay:
It’s true in a literal sense that you never “have” to respond.
Aside: I would accept “coercion” in the case where someone is writing a comment and intending it to force someone to respond or lose status. I do not write to coerce.
Incorrect intuitions
After agreeing with Sabien that it is technically correct that there is no obligation, I’ll move on to the incorrect intuitions that arise from incorrectly treating these social costs as obligations. I have made these mistakes, and the framing of this essay might lead a reader into similar errors.
For example, we may gain an inflated sense of the social costs of not responding. Suppose in some case there is a real social cost associated with some part of the audience incorrectly thinking that the author is weak. If there was an moral obligation to respond, there would be an additional social cost associated with most of the audience correctly thinking that the author does not fulfill their social obligations. Because it’s true, and more serious, that has a higher social cost. Authors with incorrect intuitions will therefore respond too often. Duty calls.
For example, compulsory unpaid labor is unethical. If writing this comment obligated the essay author to respond, that would be quite the aggressive act, invading his free time and requiring him to write on my terms, unpaid. However, if writing this comment causes people to disagree with Sabien’s choice of words, that is freedom of speech. Similarly, I was not obligated to write this comment.
For example, obligations are more binary: we have them, or we don’t. I am obliged to feed my kids. I am not obliged to let them watch Bluey. Social costs (and benefits) are more scalar. If social-cost-of-non-response was an obligation then maybe I could fully defuse it with a disclaimer like “Yo, please feel free to skip over this”, and poof, no obligation. If only.
“I like pancakes!”
“Yo, please feel free to skip over this. So you hate waffles?”
Massive flamewar erupts over the virtues of waffles vs pancakes. Some people assume I hate waffles because I don’t respond and attack me or defend me on that basis. Other people express dismay that I’m not setting the record straight. In a splinter thread a few lunatics advocate violence against IHOP.
For example, most obligations are obvious and common knowledge. By contrast, it can be hard to estimate social costs. I do not know how busy Sabien is. I do not know how important his LessWrong reputation is to his life. I do not know what type of reputation he wants to have. This may cause authors to become super-frustrated with commenters who don’t see their social costs.
In conclusion
If I have an obligation, I desire to believe that I have an obligation.
If I do not have an obligation, I desire to believe that I do not have an obligation.

Martin Randall 16 Sep 2025 1:51 UTC
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in reply to: Adam Zerner’s comment on: adamzerner’s Shortform
I think you can be quite confident in a parental transformation. Parents routinely fall in love with their babies, either immediately, or over the first few weeks or months. Increased brain plasticity during pregnancy and early parenthood is very common. If you know your genetic parents, you can check with them how their parental transformation went as a baseline.

I also agree with you that prior experiences with children (of all ages) are very informative. Ideally you combine the sources of information to make a better combined prediction.
- Thesis: I will fall in love with my baby.
- Antithesis: I find crying babies overwhelming. Babies cry a lot.
- Synthesis: comforting my crying baby will be doing something overwhelming for someone I love.
That synthesis might or might not sound like a good time, but I think it’s more predictive than either perspective alone. Also, some people don’t want to be transformed, so it’s worth considering in both directions.

Martin Randall 15 Sep 2025 21:40 UTC
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in reply to: Adam Zerner’s comment on: adamzerner’s Shortform
Going from zero to a week is a bad idea, but it would be fine to start with supervised time, move on to babysitting for an evening, then to a sleepover, and go from there. Repeat for a few nights.

There is definitely skill involved—I couldn’t be a daycare teacher. But those people are working multiple children. The job is much easier with a 1:1 child:adult ratio.

Martin Randall

Onwards with descriptivism.

Just Asking Questions

Obligation vs social costs

Incorrect intuitions

In conclusion