I disagree. Perhaps I’m biased because I’m an Antinatalist, but I don’t personally think it’s ethical to create a thinking, feeling life that you know will end in less time than average.
Yes, it is true that people do die young. You can’t guarantee that your child won’t die of cancer at 10 or in a car crash at 20. But the difference is that no one sets out to create a child that they Know will die of cancer at 10, no matter how badly they want a child.
Imagine being that child and being told that your parent did not expect you to have some of the same age-based experiences as them ( learning to drive, first kiss, trying alcohol). I’m very sure you would feel like a cruel joke had been played on you.
There’s a cut of Blade runner where Rutger Hauer’s character tells his creator
″ I want more life, Father”
Yes, people have had kids in the past where the life expectancy was lower. But it’s important to note that they were under the impression that it was impossible to live much longer than they had seen people live. As far as they were concerned when you turned 70 you were as good as dead.
But they did not expect their children’s lives to be cut short. Certainly, an illness or accident could take them ( not to mention infant mortality), but the assumption was that their children would eventually have children of their own. For most of human history we have lived in “normal conditions” where the above assumption would be correct in the vast majority of cases.
We of the 21st century do not live in normal conditions. In short, I believe creating any human life is unethical, but creating one you fully expect to end quickly is even more unethical.
I feel your pain brother. I feel your pain.