That depends on the relationship between the people involved
I should have mentioned this question was inspired by a conversation with a co-worker and their opinion about the way you should pursue relationships with the other sex. Which properly reflects some sort of larger dating advice conspiracy which tells you how to act.
Power balance isn’t something to worry about but feel free to object.
Breaking them down into different cultures sounds okay, but is there some other general consensus?
Depends on the question, but sometimes you can find things with a well-done web search. If you’re asking a question that can be answered with a simple web page then people will rightly tell you off. You can try appealing to them and MIGHT get an answer but it could also result in backslash with them treating you as an up-sucker.
It’s similar to but not identical to a catch-22 where you can always ask a question, but you MIGHT be looked upon as an idiot or you can look for the answer on your own and MIGHT find it. Emphasis on MIGHT because in a real catch-22 there’s no escape route.