Applying attachment styles to attention seems to yield something interesting. A mind can be avoidant / anxious / disorganized / secure about a thought or other object of attention.
Example: “Yeah, I’m trying not to think about X” is avoidant attention to X. X is present in your awareness, but when it comes close to the focus of attention, you flinch away from it.
Related to #4: Your traits really are part of you. Use them; expect them; flaunt them; adapt to them. If you’re tall, don’t stoop to try to look average height; you’ll still look tall and you’ll look uncomfortable and have back pain. If you’re short, feel free to stand on stuff when you need to be big or reach something high; and if you’re meant to be on camera with someone much taller, you can stand on a box like Gillian Anderson or Tom Cruise.
The idea of “accommodations” for disabilities can be generalized: by correctly accounting for your traits, you can find out what adaptations you should be carrying around with you — or asking for. If someone wants to work with you, and you know there’s something you will need in order for it to go successfully — be clear about that. Know your needs and accurately represent them to others.
You’re not the average person. More to the point, you’re not a failure at being the average person. Nobody is the average person. You’re you. Be you. Take some time to figure out what it is to be you, and communicate that to others so they can be better-than-useless in helping.