Chris Lakin

• Chris LakinAug 3, 2025, 5:24 PM

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  on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  I’ve only encountered a handful out of a few hundred teenagers and adults who really had a deep sense of what it means for emotions to “make sense.”

  How would you make sense of the emotion of doubting the value of other emotions?

• Chris LakinAug 3, 2025, 4:58 PM

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  on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  This is the point in the class where I ask participants to pick an emotion, any emotion, that they feel is bad, or wish they didn’t have, or think the world would be better off without, and spend 3 minutes trying to generate the reason it exists, and might be worth having after all.

  For anyone who wants to check how they did on this, you can copy this whole post into AI (I recommend o3 or Claude 4 Opus with extended reasoning on) and ask it to be the author of the post without immediately giving answers

• Chris LakinAug 3, 2025, 4:55 PM

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  on: Emo­tions Make Sense

  Thank you for writing this! I will be linking to this

• Chris LakinJul 25, 2025, 7:48 PM

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  on: Launch­ing Fore­cast, a com­mu­nity for crowd­sourced pre­dic­tions from Facebook

  What came of this?

• Chris LakinJul 18, 2025, 11:26 PM

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  in reply to: Eric Neyman’s comment on: So­cial Anx­iety Isn’t About Be­ing Liked

  Coaching/​therapy with a skilled facilitator you like

• Chris LakinJul 18, 2025, 8:43 PM

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  on: A night-watch­man ASI as a first step to­ward a great future

  Related: What does davidad want from «boundaries»?

  (also the broader work on boundaries for formalizing safety/​autonomy, also the deontic sufficiency hypothesis)

• Chris LakinJul 16, 2025, 11:55 PM

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  on: “What’s my goal?”

  This is extremely useful for coaching too.

  p.s.: I also wrote a similar post about how this applies to self-fulfilling prophecies chrislakin.blog/​aim

• Chris LakinJul 16, 2025, 8:02 PM

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  on: Body­dou­ble /​ Think­ing As­sis­tant matchmaking

  Related: https://​​x.com/​​nopranablem/​​status/​​1938762088018526424

• Chris LakinJul 16, 2025, 1:28 AM

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  on: Ex­am­ples of self-fulfilling prophe­cies in AI al­ign­ment?

  Grok prompts lately, kinda “Don’t think about elephants”

  • https://​​x.com/​​bitcloud/​​status/​​1942792945238983022

• Chris LakinJul 12, 2025, 3:48 PM

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  on: Chip­monk’s Shortform

  What would you most like to see me write about?

• Chris LakinJul 9, 2025, 8:24 PM

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  in reply to: Neel Nanda’s comment on: Set­ting bound­aries can feel effortless btw

  Makes sense, that’s why I wrote post to expand

• Chris LakinJul 8, 2025, 3:05 PM

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  in reply to: cousin_it’s comment on: Set­ting bound­aries can feel effortless btw

  Sounds like you’re disagreeing, but

  Now it feels less like I’m “setting” boundaries and more like… I am boundaries. I am autonomous: I do things I want, because I want to, only when I want to.

  ?

• Chris LakinJul 8, 2025, 5:06 AM

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  in reply to: Neel Nanda’s comment on: Set­ting bound­aries can feel effortless btw

  Secure feels like the wrong word here.

  Which line(s) are you referring to? This word isn’t central in the post so I’m confused.

  Reiterating the main idea:

  So… what if those [consequences] did happen? How would I like to feel and act?

• Chris LakinJun 28, 2025, 3:59 PM

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  in reply to: daijin’s comment on: So­cial Anx­iety Isn’t About Be­ing Liked

  This is assuming you need to interact closely with anyone (which isn’t always the case), but sure.

  I spent many years of my life not having friends because I didn’t like anyone around me that much, and had no social anxiety

• Chris LakinJun 14, 2025, 4:20 PM

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  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: The ab­sence of self-re­jec­tion is self-acceptance

  Missing context for this post that I didn’t have at the time is that self-acceptance is default https://​​chrislakin.blog/​​p/​​default

• Chris LakinJun 12, 2025, 12:57 AM

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  on: Ghiblifi­ca­tion for Privacy

  Works for dating classifieds, too

  

• Chris LakinJun 11, 2025, 7:21 PM

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  on: “Flaky break­throughs” per­vade coach­ing — but no one tracks them

  Do you know any coach who does this? I will pay $100 for a link

  Looking for a coach who:

  • collects long-term (6mo+) data on outcomes from all responsive clients

  • uses that data to improve long-term mental health outcomes and reduce “flaky breakthroughs”

  • I wasn’t aware of — not Chris Lakin, Max Shen, maybe Sasha

  • is in this broad network

  • has online presence as a coach

  “Collects long-term data” = following up with clients to check for lasting results at least 6 months after work has ended

• Chris LakinJun 9, 2025, 4:47 PM

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  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: “Flaky break­throughs” per­vade coach­ing — but no one tracks them

  oooh I hadn’t considered specialist that’s nice and neutral, thanks!

• Chris LakinJun 8, 2025, 3:45 PM

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  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: “Flaky break­throughs” per­vade coach­ing — but no one tracks them

  Ah okay. Also, given this, what would you call what I do? I sell secure attachment to everything, and try to have this happen after as few sessions as possible. Consultant? Practitioner?

• Chris LakinJun 8, 2025, 3:38 PM

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  in reply to: pjeby’s comment on: “Flaky break­throughs” per­vade coach­ing — but no one tracks them

  This makes a lot of sense if you work with all clients for a long time!