But they need to be in conversation with their old motivations to find the best path for their present self. Too much disconnection leads to the typical ADD pattern of always starting new plans but never following through.
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I struggle with this quite a bit—any tips to help me look at my old motivations and say anything besides “I don’t care, not gonna do that, you can’t make me, I’m gonna do $ShinyNewThing, neener neener?” I remember my past motivations but since they aren’t as novel as the current one, they feel like a slog to get back into.
I love this question! Pondering this helped me a bit.
I find it easier to take instruction from someone who, even if I don’t agree, seems to have solid, well-reasoned reasons to ask me to do something. At my job, the tickets are clear and usually pretty obvious to their value, and if not, I know I can ask for clarification. If someone asks for my help moving furniture, I may not want to, but I can see why they’d want it.
Applying those traits back to myself is not something I’ve thought of, and seems very promising! Usually:
Past-me wanted to do $Thing because it was novel and cool.
Current-me wants to do $OtherThing because it’s novel and cool and $Thing just isn’t.
Still, I think there’s definitely some stuff I can suss out about $Thing that could make me interested in doing it. Mentally give the part of me that wants to do $Thing a chance to state their case and see if that sways me.
Thank you!