I’m very weary of calling a broad-sense relationship with an LLM in any way ‘friendship’. Friends are humans. Relationships with LLMs need a new category to describe them.
FWIW, I would be wary (and take action to change things) if I noticed LLMs being a large chunk of how I met any important relational need (e.g. “the need for company”; “the need to be understood”; “the need to talk about X confusing problem in my life” (where “X” is something in the broad personal/relational/social/philosophical space, as opposed to e.g. how to get some computer system working). (This hasn’t happened to me so far.)
“Friendship” was maybe ill-chosen as a term. But I’ve been theorizing by myself and with (human) friends for several years about the ways ideas and communities and businesses and so on sometimes grow more easily in contact with one another, and sometimes develop a new “whole” that does a certain amount of optimization work “itself” (e.g., a small business may have something of its own momentum and implicit beliefs and goals, such as “we will be open at 9am every weekday”, modeled most easily as its own thing rather than as the sum of goals/etc of its contributors). (I’m getting a lot of my thinking here from the architect Christopher Alexander, who had a lot to say about the ways that e.g. peasant huts and villages are hill-climbed into good configurations over time.)
Anyhow: I’ve spent a few years using the term “friends” in that way, and I ported the term over here without unpacking things as much as I maybe should have. (“Young Isaac Newton’s thinking about physics, and young Isaac Newton’s thinking about calculus, were probably ‘friends’ in that each set of ideas made it easier for the other to grow, and probably each grew preferentially in directions that would keep making it easier for the other to grow.”) I’m trying to talk about an attractor, in which A and B both optimize a bit for each other’s well-being, and for staying within the attractor.
Thanks; this seems like a great example; i appreciate it.