Amarko

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Amarko 9 Nov 2025 20:33 UTC
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in reply to: Al W’s comment on: Against “You can just do things”
Sometimes you are a bad friend in ways that you don’t realise; everyone has their blind spots. Telling people before taking actions that affect them can let you adjust your expectations before doing something you don’t realise is harmful.

Amarko 9 Nov 2025 20:25 UTC
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on: Against “You can just do things”
As someone who recently got too wrapped up in “just doing things” at the expense of a friend whose permission I did not ask, this post strongly resonates with me right now. Seems like a good word of caution.
On the other hand, things will probably be fine in the long term and as @Bastiaan said, I probably have a more accurate sense of where the boundaries are than I would have if I just avoided doing things. So it’s maybe a grey area. But you’ll probably always be better off asking permission from the people you might be affecting, as long as you care about their opinion and they are in good faith.

Amarko 27 Oct 2025 0:30 UTC
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on: FWIW: What I noticed at a (Goenka) Vipassana retreat
My experience of a Goenka retreat was basically the exact same as yours, with the added complication that I got sick during the retreat, which was very much not fun but also didn’t seem to stop my body from eventually dissolving into waves of vibration (so to speak).
Cool and interesting, but it didn’t seem much more than that and enough of the retreat made me feel skeptical/put off that I didn’t go again.

Amarko 27 Aug 2025 0:06 UTC
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on: A speculation on enlightenment
I suspect that “enlightenment” is probably a bundle of different things rather than one discrete thing, and maybe what it means depends on the culture and even how an individual relates to the world. This is based on the heuristic that when you dig into the nature of mental states, they tend to not fall into neat categories that are the same from person to person.
However, there are people existing today who claim to be “awakened” who were certainly self-aware, and still describe a dramatic change in their perception of the world. The descriptions tend to fall along similar lines, and include:
- A dissolving of the boundary between “self” and “other”.
- A sense of fundamental peace/ok-ness that in independent of current thoughts and emotions.
- The ability to rest in some space that is “beyond thought” (or something along those lines, it sounds like a sazen).
- A natural and automatic removal of anxiety, fear and other negative emotions.
- Unlearning something about thought and the self-model that most people implicitly take to be true without realising it.
This sounds like there’s something more going on than gaining consciousness, and in some ways points in the opposite direction. It is often described as more of an “unlearning” than a learning.

Amarko 26 Aug 2025 1:20 UTC
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on: Arguments About AI Consciousness Seem Highly Motivated And At Best Overconfident
I’m getting the impression that “consciousness” is inherently not well defined; that is, there is no singular thing we can point to that will meaningfully determine whether or not something is “conscious”.
In this sense, consciousness might be a red herring. A similar but more concrete question worth asking: what behaviours would an AI agent have to exhibit for you to want it to be granted fundamental rights/autonomy? Or otherwise for it to be intrinsically unethical to create and run an instance of it?

Amarko 5 Aug 2025 10:05 UTC
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in reply to: jimmy’s comment on: Navigating Security: Fighting flammability with fire (when safe)
That makes sense—everything in context. I wouldn’t want to go around assuming that I can just tease anyone who is experiencing psychological distress, but I think I do have a sense of specific circumstances where it feels appropriate. And hey, I cannot remember the last time I looked like an asshole, so I’m probably overdue anyway.

Amarko 4 Aug 2025 22:51 UTC
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on: Navigating Security: Fighting flammability with fire (when safe)
Reading this has made something click for me, I think.
The other day a friend of mine had what he felt was an extremely embarrassing moment—although really it was not nearly as bad as he felt like it was. I kind of had this blog series in mind when we were assuring him that it was fine, and it didn’t quite connect with him, and I knew it wouldn’t, but I also didn’t really know what to do so I felt kind of awkward even though I worried that feeling awkward would make things worse.
Part of it is that I was hiding information, in that I actually found the situation interesting and slightly fun but I didn’t feel secure in demonstrating that because I was afraid of standing out, failing the bid and making myself look like an asshole. But now I’m realising that going all-in on how I really felt and approaching it with a sense of playfulness would have both been more honest and probably would have defused the situation better.
I have frequently had the experience of wanting to console someone who is experiencing an emotional difficulty, but something about my attempt feels performative and effortful even though I do actually care. In hindsight I think that I am hiding some of my authentic experience because I feel like I’m supposed to Take Their Emotions Seriously, and that any positivity or playfulness would come across as being dismissive. I think I’m starting to understand where the disconnect is and how I could better handle these situations.

Amarko 21 Jul 2025 22:57 UTC
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on: Navigating Respect: How to bid boldly, and when to humble yourself preemptively
Another excellent post. This particular post has clarified the framework for me enough that I could imagine it impacting my interactions with people.
It seems like this is formalising things that people tend to gain a partial intuition for through social interaction.
How much of this is perscriptive vs descriptive? I could use music theory to explain why a song sounds good, but in most cases music theory works better as a post-facto explanation than an instruction for how to write good music. Do you think this framework is useful for learning how to change people’s expectations/beliefs/attention/etc. or is it a description of something that could be learnt just as well without the framework?

Amarko 20 Jul 2025 22:09 UTC
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on: Love stays loved (formerly “Skin”)
I very much enjoyed this short story.
Before I read the spoiler text at the end, I was confused about the postscript. While the main story has a very clear metaphor and intention, the postscript completely diverges from that and instead sets up the intro to a cliche YA science fantasy action novel; it could have been written by James Patterson. I wonder if modern LLMs would do any better.
Edit: I tried it with ChatGPT. It gave a more realistic opener that matches the text better, but it was too explicit in calling back to phrases directly used in the text, like someone trying to show off how much they remember. Plausibly this could be fixed with the right prompting.

Amarko 8 Jul 2025 2:12 UTC
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on: Navigating Attention
I’m very much enjoying the series so far.
I find this topic very interesting, but it’s hard for me to tell what these techniques would look like in practice. It might help if you have more examples of what these looks like. Or maybe it’s the kind of thing that I would need to experience personally to get it?
How do you know how much respect the other person is giving you, so that you can successfully bid for attention? Is this just a matter of experience?

Amarko 20 May 2025 2:45 UTC
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on: [Beneath Psychology] Introduction Part 2: The Solution and What’s to Come
Very interesting post. I’ll be interested to see how this fits in with other psychological frameworks that have been posited on this forum, like Chipmonk’s and Steven Byrnes’.
Some of what you’ve said so far resonates with me—I have had the experience of a particular instance of suffering dissolving pretty quickly once I noticed that the thing I was observing and the suffering I felt from it are distinct and can be separated from each other. Some of this seems unlike anything I’ve heard before (like the Attention-Respect-Security model) and I’m curious to see how this works in practice.

Amarko 4 Mar 2025 0:52 UTC
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on: The Compliment Sandwich 🥪 aka: How to criticize a normie without making them upset.
I think the complement sandwich can be useful as a stepping stone to good communication. That said, I think of it as a narrow formulation of a more general (and less precisely defined) approach to conversation that I might point to with phrases like “work with people where they are at” and “be aware of the emotions that your words induce in other people”. There was an article on LessWrong that I can’t find, arguing that clear communication is worded to pre-emptively avoid likely misunderstandings and misconceptions. The idea I’m pointing to is like that, but concerning the emotional interpretation of your words rather than the literal meaning. I think this can apply just as much to the rationalist community as to any other community (although I haven’t had any conversations with rationalists so I don’t know for sure).
Like literary and conversational techniques in general, if they are followed as a hard rule then they risk coming across as formulaic and hence inauthentic. However I can imagine that it might be useful to adopt the complement sandwich as a rule until you gain a deeper understanding of the underlying mechanics.

Amarko 19 Sep 2024 21:59 UTC
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on: Laziness death spirals
I very much appreciate this post, because it strongly resonates with my own experience of laziness and willpower. Reading this post feels less like learning something new and more like an important reminder.

Amarko 17 Sep 2024 22:59 UTC
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in reply to: AnthonyC’s comment on: What does it mean for an event or observation to have probability 0 or 1 in Bayesian terms?
This is not quite accurate. You can’t uniformly pick a random rational number from 0 to 1, because there are countably many such numbers, and any probability distribution you assign will have to add up to 1. Every probability distribution on this set assigns a nonzero probability to every number.

You can have a uniform distribution on an uncountable set, such as the real numbers between 0 and 1, but since you can’t pick an arbitrary element of an uncountable set in the real world this is theoretical rather than a real-world issue.

As far as I know, any mathematical case in which something with probability 0 can happen does not actually occur in the real world in a way that we can observe.

Amarko 27 Mar 2024 8:00 UTC
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in reply to: sturb’s comment on: Vipassana Meditation and Active Inference: A Framework for Understanding Suffering and its Cessation
On the other hand, the more you get accustomed to a pleasurable stimulus, the less pleasure you receive from it over time (hedonic adaptation). Since this happens to both positive and negative emotions, it seems to me that there is a kind of symmetry here. To me this suggests that decreasing prediction error results in more neutral emotional states rather than pleasant states.

Amarko 25 Mar 2024 0:38 UTC
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in reply to: cesiumquail’s comment on: Vipassana Meditation and Active Inference: A Framework for Understanding Suffering and its Cessation
I disagree that all prediction error equates to suffering. When you step into a warm shower you experience prediction error just as much as if you step into a cold shower, but I don’t think the initial experience of a warm shower contains any discomfort for most people, whereas I expect the cold shower usually does.

Furthermore, far more prediction error is experienced in life than suffering. Simply going for a walk leads to a continuous stream of prediction error, most of which people feel pretty neutral about.

Amarko 5 Oct 2023 21:46 UTC
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on: Translations Should Invert
This reminds me of a lot of discussions I’ve had with people where we seem to be talking past each other, but can’t quite pin down what the disagreement is.

Usually we just end up talking about something else instead that we both seem to derive value from.

Amarko 27 Jul 2023 2:54 UTC
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in reply to: Noosphere89’s comment on: Why you can’t treat decidability and complexity as a constant (Post #1)
It seems to me that the constraints of reality are implicit. I don’t think “it can be done by a human” is satisfied by a method requiring time travel with a very specific form of paradox resolution. It sounds like you’re arguing that the Church-Turing thesis is simply worded ambiguously.

Amarko 27 Jul 2023 2:49 UTC
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on: Why you can’t treat decidability and complexity as a constant (Post #1)
It looks Deutschian CTCs are similar to a computer that can produce all possible outputs in different realities, then selectively destroy the realities that don’t solve the problem. It’s not surprising that you could solve the halting problem in such a framework.

Amarko 20 Jul 2023 9:31 UTC
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on: mental number lines
Our symbolic conception of numbers is already logarithmic, as order of magnitude corresponds to the number of digits. I think an estimate of a product based on an imaginary slide rule would be roughly equivalent to estimating based on the number of digits and the first digit.