I’ve been working on getting more out of lower percentile conversations. The explanation is fairly woo-ey but might also relate to your interest around flirting.
This mostly comes up with talkative Uber drivers. The superficial thing I do is I ask myself “what vibes is this person offering?” And then do some kind of centering move. Sometimes it feels unexpectedly good and I do an accepting mood and feel nourished by the conversation. Sometimes it will feel bad and I’ll be more aggressive in shutting conversations down. I’m often surprised by the vibe answer, it feels different than what my conscious brain would answer.
The obvious question is what am I doing with the inquiry and accepting moves. I don’t know how to explain that.
Overall a growth edge I’m exploring right now is “forms of goodness other than interesting.” And I think that’s probably a weak area for you too, although maybe an endorsed one
I’d be interested to hear that.
This mostly comes up with talkative Uber drivers. The superficial thing I do is I ask myself “what vibes is this person offering?” And then do some kind of centering move. Sometimes it feels unexpectedly good and I do an accepting mood and feel nourished by the conversation. Sometimes it will feel bad and I’ll be more aggressive in shutting conversations down. I’m often surprised by the vibe answer, it feels different than what my conscious brain would answer.
The obvious question is what am I doing with the inquiry and accepting moves. I don’t know how to explain that.
Overall a growth edge I’m exploring right now is “forms of goodness other than interesting.” And I think that’s probably a weak area for you too, although maybe an endorsed one