“That sounds really frustrating, it makes sense that you’re upset” pretty heavily endorses what the upset-ness is claiming. The central examples of hangriness, for instance, are cases where it does not make sense that the person is upset, because the things happening around them do not normally sound all that frustrating (relative to the strength of their upset-ness).
thank you John, that’s helpful & I see what you mean. I could have chosen a better example.
How about “I see that you’re really frustrated right now.” To me that’s just reflecting their emotional state and having them feel seen / heard, without endorsing their claim.
Do you agree? or have another suggestion on how to achieve that goal?
“That sounds really frustrating, it makes sense that you’re upset” pretty heavily endorses what the upset-ness is claiming. The central examples of hangriness, for instance, are cases where it does not make sense that the person is upset, because the things happening around them do not normally sound all that frustrating (relative to the strength of their upset-ness).
thank you John, that’s helpful & I see what you mean. I could have chosen a better example.
How about “I see that you’re really frustrated right now.” To me that’s just reflecting their emotional state and having them feel seen / heard, without endorsing their claim.
Do you agree? or have another suggestion on how to achieve that goal?
Yeah, that one is much better, from a “not necessarily endorsing” perspective.