I am pretty sure Michael thought he was largely agreeing with me. He wasn’t saying “I agree this thing is important, but here is this totally other thing that I actually think is more important”. He said (and meant to say) “I agree this thing is important, and here is a slightly different spin on it”. Feel free to ask him!
I claim you misread his original comment, as stated. Then you scolded him based on that misreading. I made the case you misread him via quotes, which you ignored, instead inviting me to ask him about his intentions. That’s your responsibility, not mine! I’d invite you to check in with him about his meaning yourself, and to consider doing that in the future before you scold.
I mean, I think his intention in communicating is the ground truth! I was suggesting his intentions as a way to operationalize the disagreement. Like, I am trying to check that you agree that if that was his intention, and I read it correctly, then you agree that you were wrong to say that I misread him. If that isn’t the case then we have a disagreement about the nature of communication on our hand, which I mean, we can go into, but doesn’t sound super exciting.
I do happen to be chatting with Michael sometime in the next few days, so I can ask. Happy to bet about what he says about what he intended to communicate! Like, I am not overwhelmingly confident, but you seem to present overwhelming confidence, so presumably you would be up for offering me a bet at good odds.
I am pretty sure Michael thought he was largely agreeing with me. He wasn’t saying “I agree this thing is important, but here is this totally other thing that I actually think is more important”. He said (and meant to say) “I agree this thing is important, and here is a slightly different spin on it”. Feel free to ask him!
I claim you misread his original comment, as stated. Then you scolded him based on that misreading. I made the case you misread him via quotes, which you ignored, instead inviting me to ask him about his intentions. That’s your responsibility, not mine! I’d invite you to check in with him about his meaning yourself, and to consider doing that in the future before you scold.
I mean, I think his intention in communicating is the ground truth! I was suggesting his intentions as a way to operationalize the disagreement. Like, I am trying to check that you agree that if that was his intention, and I read it correctly, then you agree that you were wrong to say that I misread him. If that isn’t the case then we have a disagreement about the nature of communication on our hand, which I mean, we can go into, but doesn’t sound super exciting.
I do happen to be chatting with Michael sometime in the next few days, so I can ask. Happy to bet about what he says about what he intended to communicate! Like, I am not overwhelmingly confident, but you seem to present overwhelming confidence, so presumably you would be up for offering me a bet at good odds.