To my mind, one of the advantages of being poly is that it forces you to rewrite the rules of how relationships run. This is good not only because you’ll do better by explicitly thinking about these things than most people do by trying to go with the flow, but also because your assumptions about what the rules are may differ from a partner’s.
I’ve found similar things to be true for me of being queer. But I wouldn’t generalize it quite as cavalierly as you seem to; I’ve met people who don’t seem to do better this way. I suspect it has a lot to do with one’s inclination and ability to think usefully about these things.
To my mind, one of the advantages of being poly is that it forces you to rewrite the rules of how relationships run. This is good not only because you’ll do better by explicitly thinking about these things than most people do by trying to go with the flow, but also because your assumptions about what the rules are may differ from a partner’s.
Also, writing up pages and pages of definitions and parameters in excessively formal language is fun!
...Is that just me?
Nope. Just ask anyone who’s tried to write a “theory article” for a Magic: the Gathering strategy site.
Haven’t done that for relationships yet, but it does sound fun.
Not done that one...
You can do it with your partner! In etherpad!
I’ve found similar things to be true for me of being queer. But I wouldn’t generalize it quite as cavalierly as you seem to; I’ve met people who don’t seem to do better this way. I suspect it has a lot to do with one’s inclination and ability to think usefully about these things.