Hi! I’m a student in mathematics. I’m joining the LessWrong community because I’m convinced that it would be a better online community for argumentation where both parties try to arrive at a better solution (in contrast to some other communities that pushes ad hominem and similar attacks whenever one has a different opinion).
I’m usually interested in number theory, computational complexity, algebra, and algorithms.
Under your argument, I have not yet grown up.[1] I fail to appreciate arbitrary rules.[2]
I don’t want a clean kitchen. Why are there other people deciding that I would want a clean kitchen? The asymmetry between the collective perception and my perceived benefit is real.
If my parents can wipe my nose for me my entire life, then yes. It turns out there is a high probability that my parents will be unable to wipe my nose for the rest of my life, and therefore I (minimally) learn to wipe mine.[3]
FYI: I’m 24 years old at the time of writing this, although growing up has little to do with age, as one (including me) could argue that I have not yet grown up.
To me, a legitimate rule must have a justifiable reason. Whether the collective reason is justifiable under my own views or not depends a lot on my beliefs and values. If I perceive a rule as unjustifiable under my beliefs and values, then I push back, i.e., I voice an opinion to discontinue the rule. This whole post is also one instance of such opinion.
FYI: My only reason to “try to be independent from parents” is to pursue the freedom. There are a lot of things my parents wouldn’t allow me if they I were still in their control. In fact, nowadays my parents allow me to do a lot of things, and therefore I need not try to be independent anymore. So if they’re willing to wipe my nose for the rest of my life while allowing me to study whatever I want and work in whatever I’m interested in, then sure, so be it.