Well, I can certainly emphasize with the feeing that compromising on a core part of your identity is threatening ;-)
More seriously, what you are describing as empathy seems to be asking the question:
“What if my mind was transported into their bodies?”
rather than
“What if I was (like) them, including all the relevant psychological and emotional factors?”
The latter question should lead feelings of disgust iff the target experiences feelings of disgust.
Of course, empathy is all the more difficult when the person you are trying to emphasize with is very different from you. Being an outlier can clearly make this harder. But unless you have never experienced any flavour of learned helplessness/procrastination/akrasia, you have the necessary ingredients to extrapolate.
Which formal properties of the KL-divergence do the proofs of your result use? It could be useful to make them all explicit to help generalize to other divergences or metrics between probability distributions.