A sturdy wooden stick about a centimetre across can be hard to break for most women and easy to break for most men, without any of this being the doing of a patriarchal society. With traditional jars, the kind you can also make at home, the resistance to opening comes from the basic sterilisation process, which creates a partial vacuum inside. Larger jars, like those of cassoulet (to stay in southwestern France, as with Bonne Maman), are often impossible to open even for a man and generally require the help of a piece of cutlery. If they aren’t hard to open, that’s a bad sign, especially in the absence of a “pop” on opening. Small jars usually pose no problem for anyone, and intermediate ones like jam jars sit in a grey zone, where a spoon helps more or less depending on the case. It also depends on how full the jar is and on the temperature (warming it up should make it open easily).
So I think we’re dealing with something fairly exogenous to societal discussions about gender, and there’s hardly any harm in just reaching for a spoon. In my view, if there is an issue here, it lies less in industrial design than in the attitude of the users. Who hasn’t seen a man make a point of opening a jar unaided, going red in the face and risking an aneurysm, persevering until his hand cramps up, as if his life depended on it,especially in the company of other men, only too happy to watch him fail so they can have a go themselves ? Conversely, it must also be granted that many women don’t try very hard and often hand the jar straight to the nearest man. If there is an effect of patriarchal society here, that’s where I’d locate it, at the behavioural level (or is it a biologically ingrained tendency ?).
This is indeed a fundamental problem and a genuine source of uncertainty, but I wouldn’t rank it as “more fundamental” than the Agrippan Trilemma or the problem of the criterion. Rather than seeing these as competing candidates for the deepest problem, I would say they share a common structural pattern : in each case, a system cannot fully ground or model itself from within. Gödel’s theorem is a precise formal instance of this pattern, the subset universe limit is a physical and computational one, the Agrippan Trilemma and the problem of the criterion are epistemological ones. They are not exactly the same problem, but they share the same fundamental pattern, a foundational problem. [Edit : we could add the first cause/ unmoved mover problem to this list]