If that were true, what’s the purpose of having a profile? Why not just post your photo, height, and salary and be done with it?
Well, for those few whose status/looks filter you pass.
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This post is good advice for a dating site where all the users are approximately equal in physical attractiveness and status level. Otherwise, most the information becomes irrelevant once your profile readers determine your desirability levels are unmatched. For instance, men wouldn’t even read your profile if they think they can get a better looking woman. And I’ve seen women go through profiles only paying attention to job, pictures and height.
More important information for these profiles is status and physical attractiveness orienting information. Finding a match at this level is enough for most people (I’d guess 90%) to message the other person.
Not to sound arrogant, but as a man successful with women, I can offer my advice to other men here.
Feel free to reply to this comment or PM me with questions.
Why didn’t you mention any advice on status signaling?
Status quo bias. If rationality quotes were always in discussion no one would vote to move it in the main LW.
I am not awful because I don’t want to deal with the consequences, one of which is feeling guilty.
Not to mention anchoring the consumer’s perception of actual quality.
it might be hard to set up a group with instructions that have a completely neutral effect on their results
What are we testing for? Whether there’s a placebo effect in believing you have good instructions?
If yes, it seems obvious there is one—especially in a domain where confidence is highly correlated with positive results.
That’s the best time to initiate touch. Any later and it will seem out of character or contrived.
You’re not imagining the same thing as pjeby when you think of “comfortable initiating touch”. If you appear to be rushing/eager, you’re not appearing comfortable and, as you’ve predicted, will appear less attractive.
I’ve always suspected that introspection was tied to negative emotions. It’s more of a tool to help figure out solutions to problems rather than a happy state like ‘being in flow’. People can get addicted to introspection because it feels productive, but remains depressing if no positive action is taken from it.
Do you think this is related to the mental muscles model?
Another proxy for measuring status is how attractive you are to attractive women—given that the fundamental attractor is reliable status signals.
Your time and effort can be used to give status. By sending a reliable signal you’ve wasted time and effort for a friend, you’re giving your friend good evidence they have some power over you—a feeling much sweeter than a store-bought cake.
People involuntarily/unconsciously test and asses others’ status all the time. Evidence of one’s status is embedded in every action, and therefore, all action can be used to determine status.
personality traits are at least as big a factor as looks in explaining variance in conscious female status testing behavior.
FTFY
Since when do social games not matter?
I believe in maximizing the amount of resources I can from people, and therefore feeling I deserve what I plausibly can get—but I don’t see how that’s a “right”. I think what you realized is that you didn’t have to deal with ciriticism, teasing, harassment, not that you had the right to not deal with those things.
Your place in the dominance hierarchy determines your mating prospects much more so than your feelings of high status. Feelings maybe necessary, but not sufficient in this case.
What’s your theory on dyslexia?
Sure, but it doesn’t help for those who want to make sure they’re maximizing the status/looks of their readers. And for people not getting messaged/messaged back as much as they’d like, should consider improving their displayed status/looks.