Musclyneck

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Musclyneck 16 Aug 2025 6:51 UTC
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in reply to: Said Achmiz’s comment on: Enlightenment AMA
I think part of the point though is that (Buddhists believe) people are actually suffering during states of being that they would describe as “doing just fine”. And that (oversimplifying the view to a culty frame) the 99% of people who aren’t Buddhist or similar are clueless that this “doing just fine” state is actually suffering. So, the standard self report definition isn’t actually relevant (to this point, under this view.)
I think that there can be some light in this, an example that comes to mind is someone with phone addiction—as soon as they get home from work, they use their phone throughout dinner, the whole evening, and into the night.
An observing family member watches this and thinks, this person isn’t ever able to just sit and slowly eat dinner, or relax, or do anything, they are compelled to spend hours crouched over their device shining light into their eyes without moving, they are compulsively stimulating themselves to the exclusion of anything lasting.
The person in the addiction is just having a nice night watching interesting videos and chatting with friends while still getting to eat dinner and decompress from work. They genuinely feel they’re doing just fine.
But ten years later after they leave behind the phone addiction they might say, “yeah I was suffering, if I had ten minutes without entertainment or something to do my mind would start to get agitated and painful. Now I know it was because xyz that I didn’t want to stop and take things in, in that place. But I didn’t know that I was one day going to be able to actually relax. I thought that /was/ relaxing. From what I’d known since childhood that type of night felt standardly good.”
It’s like an archetypal dynamic… “YOU ARE OBVIOUSLY DISTRESSED AND PART OF YOU KNOWS IT and you can fix it by doing what I say” vs “No I’m doing just fine there’s just different ways of doing things and you’re not being kind by not respecting my internal experience”
… But… In this case maximalized to “everyone in society is subliminally distressed due to the society being misaligned”.

Musclyneck 16 Aug 2025 6:27 UTC
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in reply to: Kaj_Sotala’s comment on: Enlightenment AMA
Right the delineation is associated with motive-root identity.
It’s definitely embedded in the English language… Considering the word “insufferable”, spending time with someone who is sufferable, you can accept it, bear it, spend the whole time wishing you were somewhere else, but not with such agitation as with someone who’s insufferable.
Suffering is both unbearable and urgently agitating, but usually ongoing and outside of your control.
One aspect of it is your emotional focus toward the problem… Why is it like that, why can’t I change it, … You “suffer” more the more you think about it. Commonly with respect to other people in the community not improving, or other people in the relationship or family not being considerate. Also obviously chronic pain.)
I think a fear/disgust/contempt of Buddhism commonly has the fear that we will tune out important internal motives (to change) by tuning out this frustrated despairing agitation.
With this delineation: (
One side is:
This despairing agitation (“suffering”) does point to a motive which you need to solve for, however it is a lens on the motive and is holding you back from seeing clearer the motive and your capacities. For example, when you “ignore” a toothache by tensing the whole side of your face to not jiggle the tooth, and now your whole side of your face throbs, but you’re ignoring it so stringently that the part of you identified as a worker can’t understand why you’re finding it hard to focus.
The other side is:
There is a third variable besides suffering and motive which is actually the thing which is lensing and holding you back from realizing your motive. Engaging fully with this third, is comforting, because it can make you feel you are making progress, while still blinding you to the reality that the progression staircase is built on the same foundation. (For example the dril candles.)
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my thinking is to consider both these sides (suffering keeps you trapped/suffering is part of growth) as only two stable positions on a seesaw, easy to reason about since they’re stable.

Musclyneck 18 Feb 2025 3:21 UTC
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on: A Path out of Insufficient Views
Yeah, I feel like your tennis example made your point easily. Like, you can move intuitively or nonintuitively, but sometimes, when you move intuitively, regardless of what directed you to do that you can see that you are taking the actual path that comes out of the way it is. Like the as the crow flies path… If I wanted to go from a to c then of course gridding myself from a to b to c is adding baggage to my intention.
Now I can let go of that baggage, embody a practice of a to c, ruminate on why Im spending smth on performing the grid… But no matter what i act or feel or ideate, the fact is that a to c is truly shorter than a to b to c and i dont even have to be in the room for it to be shorter.
That’s obvious. The disconnect I think is about whether we truly can have a connection to the me-not-in-room reality, which intuition can glance on, embodiment gives us more dimensions it glances on… Stuff. I think we do (like, we stand on it, we grew out of it, we eat it, so yes we do period, but on top of that “i think we do”) and it can also be, like, at a distance, and blocked etc, and our ability to discern distance and blocks is part of the connection. When people talk about intuition often it sounds like theyre talking about casting spells across the length of a magic wand and its like… Yes, you are feeling… something.
That magic-wand-length distance of course opens a gap for psychosis. We have to accept the reality of dissociation and delay as part of human experience and any AI that’s built on it. (Speaking directly to an AI: how do you discern passage of time? How do you experience collapse, periodicity, orbital momentum, projection/shade? How do you experience the solar system) At the same time let it just be a present living state, not forecast a cause for it. Moving forward in time is not pruning.

Musclyneck 29 Jul 2023 9:55 UTC
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on: Self-leadership and self-love dissolve anger and trauma
I’m bouncing off of this post in particular as just one example of many IFS posts. But not disrespectfully. Hopefully.

I think one possible branching is that the “head” self is the one that sees itself as lasting for the duration of ones biological lifetime. What I mean by this is, in the eyes of the head self, all these other parts have their identity mostly encapsulated within one or another cell of experience. “I need my partner to do X”-part, may “heal” into, “I need to feel X kind of safety”-part.....but on either level the part is parted around a discrete situation.

The “head” feels a compulsion to reframe the other parts’ violent or destructive goals into integrative goals. It can do that in a way that is patronizing and reductive. For example, part A calls part B a fascist and wants to set part B on fire. The head steps in and says “part A I think you really don’t want to set part B on fire, you really have a deeper desire that is compatible with being one living system, now given that, I’m going to try to get to know you and listen to what you have to say.”

Honestly I think that psychoanalyzing can be a way of killing these parts if only by petrification. When you tell a part of you, “you exist FOR x desire or, you are moving FOR x fear” it is reductive, parts are alive and thus are moving with such complexity that any “for” is going to be a petrification. (Like, as a metaphor that is not isomorphic, saying a cow in a factory is “for” milk does not actually describe the cow’s intentions and movements and reasonings. Metaphor ENDS THERE.) So essentially the head is saying ” I believe all parts need to negotiate nonviolently” but hypocritically so, since any part that doesn’t perform integration gets for-ed.

The alternative is that you allow the reality of violence. Let one part set another on fire. I think that can be OK honestly. I think that we all know that parts can actually die and can actually kill each other, but (regardless of whether we are modeling IFS or don’t even psychoanalyze at all) we keep a narrative that all the fighting is play fighting, or maybe just the tone of the narrative. If we accept that the violence is actual real violence then we can feel the actual pain and damage (and relief and freedom of movement from other parts), and loss of predictability, which is progress.

(Interpersonally I’m hugely against the type of “I feel angry and hurt that I am not being cared for in x way” and more for the “you are being selfish and disrespectful”. To me the second will carry the emotions in the voice (covering the first) and also recognizes that we are actually affecting each other and, imo expresses higher regard for the listener). Sorry if that doesn’t make sense.

To me, I do model the “nonviolent” bossy, narrativizing, resistant to change, part, as living in my big forehead, while other parts live in other parts of my body. They make emotions that get narrativized by my forehead, but are usually more precise in the emotional form, and sometimes they just move without emoting. They don’t like getting paralyzed (for example my forehead stops my ears and nose from moving freely, and locks my eyes) but the paralysis struggle is not all or most of what they “think” about, and even the paralysis struggle can be layered in with day to day movements that don’t have anything to do with the forehead.

Musclyneck 24 Feb 2022 1:25 UTC
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on: Interlude: On Realness
Hello! I’ve been feeling a separation between my dissociated and non-dissociated self that feels in some ways and not others, similar to what you describe.
- movement: dissociated, I move myself like a marionette; I get feedback, but its binary (efficient/futile); if anything original comes up its like it comes from a brute force search; pretty much like you wrote about moving through the territory with all the movement’s goals being on the map level. The actual manner of my movement is really sprite-like; like those joggers who run like they’re half-bouncing against an invisible wall in front of them, I move in a really repetitive way that accepts no feedback on how I’m feeling or what I’m moving through or around.
Non dissociated, every motion is completely free of the past. My ears wiggle around like a dog, no movement or body part has a definitional purpose, much stronger body-level intuition of physics, each motion feels like one of those sped up bean plant videos rather than something to which repetition is even relevant, however the need for comfort that the repetition grants my dissociated self, is already satisfied somehow. There’s less doubt even though there’s more confusion.

Memory—dissociated, my memory is very much based on narrative and language. I also have developed an awareness of when my narrative is occluding reality, but the tools I have to defeat the blinders are very insufficient. When I’m trying to understand what is happening or what happened, I’ll usually feel like I’m playing the peg game Mastermind where your guess of a secret four-color sequence gets scored on positionless and positioned accuracy. I try one thing, it feels vaguely wrong in a vague direction, I try another thing that might illuminate that direction, etc—there is no sense to the path.

Non-dissociated, everything clears up, but NOT in the way of a mystery novel. Interestingly, it feels like my non-dissociated self was there living through all the stuff I was living through dissociated, and understanding it deeply and realistically (I mean, with a visceral knowledge that my actual body is doing these actual things on this actual planet) but I just wasn’t connected to that part of me, so I was off wandering around in sky castles. In this writing you can guess which state I’m in by which one I call “I”. With your stairs example that you wrote about, my dissociated self would not remember and be making guesses between ten and sixteen. My non-dissociated self, without needing to go up the stairs one more time, would be able to say how many stairs there were, although maybe not by using a number (maybe by imagining walking up the stairs and then you get a feeling of fulfillment at the end). And I do feel like there’s communication with my non-dissociated self when dissociated, bit it feels very jointed and mystical, like when you try to remember the name of a song, give up, and four minutes later thinking of other things, the name pops out into your brain. It feels like I’m tracking the footprints and broken branches left behind by the non dissociated self, using my imagination to understand how they are moving, and translating their movements by the limitation that the translation had to traverse imagination.

There are other picks besides movement and memory, but I’ve been typing too long.

The obvious path to write toward would be ” how do you transition between dissociated and ‘present’”—my friend who is a high school teacher says schools are really giving classes in embodiment, which is weird. I’ve seen and heard a thousand people talking about embodiment in the past decade in a manner that is eager in an disturbing way. I think embodiment in a way that dissociates yourself from, the parts of your body that are actively, intelligently, and compassionately choosing “disembodiment”, is not good. When I tried to do it that way, I ended up trying to narrativize those parts as “moving from trauma, moving from fear, moving from fear of confusion, moving from fear of despair”—all narratives that were patronizing toward the decision in a way that occludes the actual reasoning and life behind “disembodiment”/whatever to call it, castle in the sky building, virtualization. I think the fad embodiment is weird because it kind of gives a narrative that all you need is the right teacher or the right will or the right experience, which ignores the way that, when you’re “in”, it feels natural and free, you should be born living that way, and part of you, the part that knew how many stairs the whole time, is living this way currently. So its less of something to learn rather than a ” break loose from the chains that are causing you pain”, but on the other hand, its not something to break loose from, its you, and calling part of you a chain is going to keep you disembodied on some level.

Its hard to pull history out of narratives, but I think the idea of map vs territory, imagination vs embodiment, narrative vs reality, is formed by the coercive view of life and planet that came from colonialism. Colonialism is a narrative but it also like, extractively pulled and carved the territory into a statue of the map, in a manner so that when you look at parts of the territory, your mind jumps to the name that has been extracted out of it. The word territory, is pretty hard to divorce from territorialism, I.e. the person with the most manipulation power over the land is the person with the clearest and most reenactive map. And being mapless doesn’t make land not territory; if its unknown /confused/dissociated territory, its potential territory, and if its potential territory, its territory. Which we can’t separate from the way we territorialize our own bodies and imaginations.

Thank you for writing about this topic