I meant the first, but I suppose it applies to the other two. I don’t actually know which kind “Don’t stick your dick in crazy” is meant to apply to.
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Then shouldn’t you be including advice on how not to get worked up about it?
Sounds a lot like “paperwork is a mild annoyance to me, therefore people who claim to find it painful are just being drama queens”.
If you’re crazy, prefer getting involved with crazy people and sane people who know how to deal with your kind of crazy to getting involved with well-meaning but naive sane people. And don’t get involved with people who don’t want to get involved with crazy people, even if you can fake long enough to fool them.
If you’ve moved to a new area, avoid using map services to get around and work on your own internal brain-map. You don’t want to live somewhere for a year and be helpless without your phone.
If you’re terrible at brain maps, learn a bunch of routes. If you’re terrible at that too, carry paper maps.
Failure case: They feel compelled to help, resent you for it, and destroy your reputation by speaking ill of you.
Oh hey, you’re girl!me. Maybe what helped me will help you?
Getting on bupropion stopped me being miserable and hurting all the time, and allowed me to do (some) stuff and be happy. That let me address my executive function issues and laziness; I’m not there yet, but I’m setting up a network of triggers that prompt me to do what I need.
This will hurt like a bitch. When you get to a semi-comfortable point you just want to stop and rest, but if you do that you slide back, so you have to push through pain and keep going. But once the worst is over and you start to alieve that happiness is possible and doing things causes it, it gets easier.
So I’d advise you to drag yourself to a psychiatrist (or perhaps a therapist who can refer you) and see what they can do. If you want friends and/or support, you could drop by on #lesswrong on Freenode, it’s full of cool smart people. If I can help, you know where to find me.
Yeah, but have you seen the graphics? And the NPC AI? I think the physics engine might be buggy though.
Any news?
Oh, that works, then. Timeline:
On the 21st, I’ll know if I’ll be staying in the hospital for a while or not. If so, I’ll have a friend keep my stuff, will look at new places from the hospital, and stay either at my current place or at that friend’s between being discharged and moving.
On the 28th, I have to move out. My landlady’s willing to put me up at her new place.
By mid-March, I have to move out of my landlady’s new place if I was staying there.
I’m in Stockholm right now, but have to move out of my current place. Do tell me if this pans out, Belfast sounds good and you seem like a nice person from looking at your comments. My schedule might be tighter than yours, though.
That’s the main reason I’m going for France, along with being a citizen which means less paperwork. English-speaking countries and Sweden also work. Denmark and Norway and Germany would be easier to adapt to than most places (aw yeah, Grimm’s law). I have enough of a knack for languages that getting by in any Indo-European one seems feasible. (Sorry Kaj, Finland’s a bad idea.)
Help me refactor my life
People get suicidal in response to very bad things, status loss is and tends to accompany very bad things. What else is there to explain?
I didn’t mean banning, just people thinking “They won’t help me, no point posting” or “Holy mackerel they’re going to call 911 on me and get me locked up” or “I would ask LW for help, but I can’t get over fretting about the reaction”.
A couple mental illness support groups I know of ban talking about planned suicides (and self-injury), mostly to avoid triggering potentially suicidal (resp. self-injurious) people. Since they point to emergency resources a lot and support non-acutely suicidal people, it doesn’t seem to be very bad, but I can’t observe the consequences.
Are these claims research-based?
The first is anecdotal. I’ve heard a lot of negative reports and very few positive ones, but there may be selection bias. Maybe hotlines are for people who are desperate to talk to anyone, so people who’d talk to me don’t benefit nearly as much.
The second… is probably wrong, come to think of it. A lot of people shriek “Never spill the beans about someone being suicidal without their consent, it could get them into arbitrary amounts of trouble, and an even suckier life won’t make them less suicidal”, but even more people shriek “Call 911 NAO” and the main evidence that the former know what they’re talking about is that they have much more personal experience.
OTOH, suicidal people often have very few options, so removing one is a big cost. Lots of reports suggests that suicide hotlines aren’t actually much better than random like-minded people, though it’s possible that callers underestimate how helpful they were. And contacting locals is among the most likely strategies to backfire.
Nah, there are lots of tests for how focused someone is. Approach them from behind and drop a heavy book on the floor. If they get furious at you because it’ll take them hours to get back to juggling eggs, or if they don’t notice at all, they were concentrating.
I think it comes down to this:
If you live in a small community, and your friend or neighbor or family member contacts you and says “someone just committed a horrible act of violence here!” you have to drop everything and listen. Your discomfort is so insignificant compared to the magnitude of the event, you can’t ignore something like that.
You certainly can’t answer “sorry, I need you to stop right there, I’m trying to do some self-care right now and I’m avoiding triggers until I feel ready to engage with difficult subjects.” They’d crown you King Butthead.
But on the Internet, the “community” is 2.4 billion people. Something horrible will be happening to thousands of them every day. You can’t apply the same ethics. It’s emotionally impossible, and not terribly helpful to the world, to even try.
So hand me my Butt Crown.
Do we know anything about executive function failures other than AD(H)D?
I showed up at the doctor’s during drop-in hours. I was “voluntarily” admitted to the hospital, put on fluoxetin (Prozac), and discharged a few days later. After some months, it became clear Prozac was making me worse. Since my depression is the atypical subtype (low motivation, can become happy by doing things, oversleeping, overeating), they switched me to bupropion (Wellbutrin). That worked.
Doctors (or at least these particular doctors) know their stuff, but I double-check everything on Crazy Meds.