I disagree.
You can approximate OKC as a two-person game: Weird = Honest, Polished=Dishonest. U(WW)=+3/+3, U(WP)=0/+4, U(PP)=0/0, then you have the usual Prisoner-Dilemma payoff (motivation: being honest will generate more long-term utility).
This is a bad approximation, as OkCupid is a multi-player-game, so it’s more complicated than the classical 2-player Prisoner’s Dilemma. That’s where the tragedy of the commons comes in. In an environment where nearly everyone plays defect-bot, a lot of utility is destroyed. But, tit-for-tat players have an advantage if they meet another TFT player.
That’s how I interpreted the use of concepts in the article, did you understand it differently?
I think this is strongly connected to the Typical Mind Fallacy.
I did a quick inventory of distortions that I recognize often [I live in a leftist techy-academic bubble full of socially and sexually permissive people].
Other people’s properties that I overestimate because of my bubble:
Intelligence
Comptence (Imposter-Syndrome)
Knowledge (expecting short inferential distances)
Physical fitness
Available amount of leisure
Susceptibility to arguments and evidence
Stuff that is (relatively) easy for people in my bubble, but seems to be hard outside:
Reading a novel
Looking at the water
Discussing sexuality & relationship styles
Casual non-sexual touching (hugging, cuddling etc.)
And these are just properties where I deviate pretty strongly from mainstream society.
I agree. The Hamming-style question I now ask myself is:
‘Which unacknowledged diversity is creating the most problems for me in social interactions?’