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I have a secret desire for this to become real which I fear may destroy me and/or everything I know.
The graph image is broken. Does anyone have a copy of the image file? I remember what it looked like, and it was super-useful for demonstrating the concept.
Asimov’s Science Fiction has published one of my stories! “Red Legacy,” on page 48 of the current issue. Details on how to get it at my blog if you’re interested. I think it’s a rational story, but I’m interested in opinions if anyone here ends up reading it.
Taught early in high school: How to do sex, in real life. Not STI education, not pregnancy/fertility, not how to be safe, or the biology of penises and vagines. How to go into sex and do it so that it’s fun and feels good, how to listen to your body and your partner, maybe how to attract the opposite sex, and so on. Dunno about elsewhere, but in the US guys get all their sex education from porn, and girls used to get none at all. (now… also porn?) Porn is fun, but it’s Kabuki Sex, and it only vaguely relates to real-life sex. It’d be like giving a 16-year-old a driver’s licence when the entirety of his/her driving education consisted of watch Hollywood Car Chase movies.
Of everything useful I ever learned about sex, 50% of it was from Dan Savage and 50% of it was from my fiance, both many years after I had actually started trying to do sex on my own. This is stupid.
Every single episode seems to have the deep underlying message of “Humans are fucked up, on a fundamental level. This is what it means to be human, and it cannot be changed. Let us revel in it.” Sometimes it’s melancholy, sometimes it’s straight-up sad-as-hell, but there’s never a feeling of “things can get better.” It’s always of “these problems are too large to change, nothing can be done but to embrace and accept it.” It is the loss of all hope that makes me want to just give up on everything and crawl into a dark corner for the rest of the day.
It does seem to be there now, so I guess that was it. Thanks!
Hm. Denver meetup isn’t showing up on the map on the front page. Is this the write place to mention that? Should someone else be messaged? Thanks,
There is a Starbucks, and last time I was there it had lots of chairs. :) I plan on bringing a large wizard’s hat for ease of recognition.
Wanted to mention that the Denver Area meet-up next week is basically new. It’s the second of a soon-to-be regular event that TheStevenator is starting up from scratch (mad props to him!). He just moved here and I believe there’s no connection to the previous sporadic ones. Sounds like the goal is for these to become regular monthly meets. I’m looking forward to them. :)
Seconded! I literally laughed out loud, which doesn’t happen from reading text very often. :)
Taken, in full
I had to stop listening to TAL because I was tired of wanting to kill myself after every episode.
1-2 mg of Melatonin ~20min before you wish to fall asleep
2 hours per day seems like way too much. I work out 3x per week, 1 hour each time. (Though I did start 4x per week, 1 hour each, when I was initially losing weight). Just make sure to keep it high intensity. When I’m tempted to slack off I ask myself if I’m here to kill some time by moving around, or if I’m here to achieve a damn objective as efficiently as I can so I can get back to doing other things. If after an hour is up I’m physically capable of continuing for another hour, I obviously was just wasting my time.