Our society is in denial about intelligence. But it also assumes that the intelligent children are smart enough to figure out life entirely on their own, and even overcome ADHD and autism on their own, if necessary.
Yeah i think raw intellect alone can’t get you very far if you have a bunch of other disfuncitons added on top
Most burned out gift individuals seem to fall into the “smart enough to know you could do more with your life” but not “smart enough to work things out on your own”
And with neurological disorders being more common amongst the gifted the bar for “working things out on your own” is much higher then normal
every peer i knew from highschool who i considered smarter then average has either burned out in college or managed to get through by lowering their expectations and just doing what regular people do but better which is quite disheartening
thanks for the help, i had suspicions that i had some sort of neurological disorder and tailored my current attempts at treating my burnout accordingly
my main hypothesis is that i have both ADHD and autism since i have most of the symptoms
here are some of the interventions that i tried in case someone in a similar position might read this comment and find some thing useful:-
1_replacing my rooms led lights with incandescent light and using a warm light filter on all my devices
2_using earplug to have easier time sleeping and focus when studying
3_trying to avoid attending college classes when possible (i live far away from college and suffer from motion sickness and back pain and often have to walk half of the way back home and the other half in a crowded bus, you could probably guess how little i actually get from sitting in those lectures)
4_having some kind of daily to do list that records my progress on routines
5_having a list the mistakes i have made in my life and how to avoid them in the future
6_trying the pomodoro timer
7-having some short term goal to work towards, even a small seemingly pointless thing like learning to solve the rubiks cube or learning to write with your non dominant hand can do wonders to your motivation even if those things a practically useless
i have been doing this for about 2 years now and i can say for sure that 1,2,6,7 have helped with basically no drawbacks
3 is a mixed bag as it initially help with my mental and physical health but also screwed up my college performance which in turn worsen my mental heath
4 works when i am committed so it is good at keeping me from sliding into burnout but not very useful at getting me out of it
5 is a mixed bag, having a constant reminder of your past mistakes can be painful especially if you ever find yourself repeating the same mistake twice but not having it could run the risk of never learning from your mistakes
i should probably make a post about the strategies i tried and which of them work and which didn’t
also it is worth noting that this
pretty much happened to me, i read over a dozen self help books and i can say for sure that most of them were a waste of time on the first read, only becoming useful on the second read when i actually began writing down what i learned and applying it
thankfully i can read very quickly often finishing 2 to 3 books a month so i hardly lost any time on this mistake