“Instead lean into a metaphor of facilitating a conversation between parts from a position of kindness and open curiosity” is … straightforwardly what the essay above recommends?
For the first couple of times, you should set aside 30-90 minutes and do all the steps in full, on paper.
After that, you can do much faster five-minute or five-second versions.
I think you can usually manage to boot up the conflict even when you’re not in the moment; most (i.e. literally more than half) participants at CFAR workshops had nonzero success doing IDC just … right then, when we taught it and told them to.
Seems right. =)