It probably goes without saying that you need a pretty high status to make use of the advice in this post. A predictable failure mode for naturally status-blind people not very successful in life is to keep forgetting how low-status you are, and how little others can be bothered to listen to three words from you before they start talking over you or walk away mid-sentence to ask someone else. Only when you consciously learn status is a thing and its implications do you realize how hopeless all those communication attempts were to begin with, how powerless you are to stop people from ascribing to you any ideas or motives they like, how well-advised you’d be to shut up most of the time, and how screwed you are when shutting up won’t do.
It also takes some time to learn that, in written communication, people who would interrupt you will instead skim your text for isolated keywords, hold you responsible for the message they make up from those, and give you an accordingly useless or hostile reply.
That’s an interesting perspective.
At this point, I’d concluded all violations are mainly challenges. Since most people are socially skilled enough to smell weakness from a mile away, they know when they can assert their status by conspicuously disregarding your presumable boundaries, thus advertising, to you and to any bystanders, that you have no credible means to defend yourself and are therefore entirely at their mercy. What I’ve found the hardest to learn is that merely asking someone to respect your boundaries may well be itself a violation of their boundaries (“Noöne replies to me like that!”), which they most assuredly will defend, by escalating the abuse to prove the point that you’re no match for them and have no choice but to yield, unconditionally, forever. Calling abusers abusers offends them.
That’s part of the fight. Bullying works by normalizing the idea that there’s nothing morally wrong with harming the victim. After all, they deserve it for being a victim, rather than a survivor, don’t they?