You are saying that because she is your friend, e.g. here she is retweeting you. https://twitter.com/RomeoStevens76/status/1458933961153908736
You are not impartial and it is deceptive to give the impression that you might be.
She knows that now everyone is going to think of this post, the fact that she’s hot/interesting, the idea of ‘frame control’ and her abusive father, whenever leverage/paradigm gets mentioned. She has tied these things together in your mind and it will affect the way you perceive the situation. I don’t understand how you aren’t seeing this.
I also don’t understand why you expect me to update on your self-reported counterfactual. Would any rationalist actually do this? What on earth is going on? It seems like you’re just trying to signal to support your friend. I can’t really believe you’d do that so brazenly on a rationalist forum.
Your whole career seems to be repeatedly exploiting morally-grey areas to become famous/wealthy/powerful and occasionally playing the victim card. It’s shady. You seen to launder a ton of your personal grievances through well-written blog posts that to a large degree people listen to because you are a smart rationalist porn star with an aspirational narrative who can talk her way out of any overton window.
It’s a good post but you also have an agenda with the leverage/paradigm thing and you aren’t being clear about it. Most people here are only going to notice the object level. It’s just really bad to tie your personal narrative/brand into an ongoing issue and present it as a really compelling object-level framework. It’s distorting and just pretty frustrating. You’re quite significantly altering the narrative, it’s not really clear that you should be, and half of this stuff should be dealt with in a court house anyway.