Huh, I’d have thought those questions make it clear that I currently think they should do the infra project rather than the research project (at least, within the social norms I’m used to), I’m hardly avoiding saying it, just being polite while making my beliefs clear.
Re the general question of trust and fear of manipulation, I think it depends a lot on the context and my relationship with the person? That attitude makes sense in a low trust environment when interacting with people with misaligned incentives, but I think I’m pretty aligned incentive wise with the people I manage or mentor and they know I’m not out to get them. We’re all here to do impactful research. If there’s a context without mutual trust, I obviously expect this to work less well.
I also think I can establish some trust by actually engaging with objections, and updating on novel ones and that I agree with
Huh, I’d have thought those questions make it clear that I currently think they should do the infra project rather than the research project (at least, within the social norms I’m used to), I’m hardly avoiding saying it, just being polite while making my beliefs clear.
Re the general question of trust and fear of manipulation, I think it depends a lot on the context and my relationship with the person? That attitude makes sense in a low trust environment when interacting with people with misaligned incentives, but I think I’m pretty aligned incentive wise with the people I manage or mentor and they know I’m not out to get them. We’re all here to do impactful research. If there’s a context without mutual trust, I obviously expect this to work less well.
I also think I can establish some trust by actually engaging with objections, and updating on novel ones and that I agree with