Wait, seriously? Back when I was single I used to chat up girls on trains every chance I got. Never went anywhere, but never saw any signs of discomfort either.
I’m… extremely biased… but I can’t imagine getting the icky vibes from you that cause discomfort, even in a non-escapable space. You simply don’t come off as remotely scary.
It’s true. MBlume is the sort of person who could run up to someone while wearing a Nazi uniform, covered in blood, with swords in both hands, shouting about an imminent nuclear blast, all without coming off as threatening.
MBlume is the sort of person who could run up to someone while wearing a Nazi uniform, covered in blood, with swords in both hands, shouting about an imminent nuclear blast, all without coming off as threatening.
I’m… extremely biased… but I can definitely imagine getting the icky vibes from you, Steven, that cause discomfort, especially in a non-escapable space. You simply come across as really creepy.
Fortunately, this is one problem that I’ve had that I’ve almost completely managed to solve. (And in at least one case, outside observers agreed that it wasn’t my fault.)
I would guess that oliverbeatson is suggesting that other things being equal, a man with facial hair (at least of a certain type) will come across as more of a creepy stalker than one without. I have picked this idea up from friends as well.
If the facial hair idea is true, it makes MBlume’s non-threatingness (discussed elsewhere in the thread) all the more noteworthy given his facial hair handicap. Although maybe if MBlume combined the Nazi uniform with facial hair in the form of a Hitler mustache, he would appear threatening.
I’ll tentatively suggest that creepiness isn’t so much a matter of grooming (good, bad, non-standard, specific details) as an appearance of clinginess. It’s an impression that the creepy man wants to get too close too fast and won’t go away.
Wait, seriously? Back when I was single I used to chat up girls on trains every chance I got. Never went anywhere, but never saw any signs of discomfort either.
I’m… extremely biased… but I can’t imagine getting the icky vibes from you that cause discomfort, even in a non-escapable space. You simply don’t come off as remotely scary.
It’s true. MBlume is the sort of person who could run up to someone while wearing a Nazi uniform, covered in blood, with swords in both hands, shouting about an imminent nuclear blast, all without coming off as threatening.
It’s true. I’ve seen him do it.
I’m… extremely biased… but I can definitely imagine getting the icky vibes from you, Steven, that cause discomfort, especially in a non-escapable space. You simply come across as really creepy.
[Full disclosure: I am married to Steven.]
I have a horrible tendency to come across as a creepy stalker. :(
If I saw video of you I might be able to offer tips, but I can’t promise they’ll help.
Fortunately, this is one problem that I’ve had that I’ve almost completely managed to solve. (And in at least one case, outside observers agreed that it wasn’t my fault.)
I’m curious… how did you solve it?
Did it involve facial hair? Often does.
I don’t understand this post at all.
I would guess that oliverbeatson is suggesting that other things being equal, a man with facial hair (at least of a certain type) will come across as more of a creepy stalker than one without. I have picked this idea up from friends as well.
If the facial hair idea is true, it makes MBlume’s non-threatingness (discussed elsewhere in the thread) all the more noteworthy given his facial hair handicap. Although maybe if MBlume combined the Nazi uniform with facial hair in the form of a Hitler mustache, he would appear threatening.
I’ll tentatively suggest that creepiness isn’t so much a matter of grooming (good, bad, non-standard, specific details) as an appearance of clinginess. It’s an impression that the creepy man wants to get too close too fast and won’t go away.
This is not the same thing as being frightening.