I don’t conceptualize them that way. I fucked someone; that does not mean I conquered them in any sense beyond the fucking itself. Perhaps you are bringing in a frame where fucking someone implies bringing them low in some way that extends beyond the sex. But I never said anything like that, do not think anything like that, and do not generally live in that frame. This is your associations talking, not mine, and frankly it does not sound like a healthy way to relate to fucking.
hey, i don’t think that you do, and have not at any point. but we’re not legislating what’s in your heart, we’re trying to understand why some had a negative reaction to your word choice.
my understanding of your model of the offense:
people see the word ‘fuck’
they think of ‘very erotic’ sex
they are not comfortable with this, for possibly complex reasons
they are offended.
i suggest instead that what’s happening is
people see the word ‘fuck’
they think of what is (to them) a far more common usage of the word: a sort of conquest/damage
gross!
anyway, sorry if i’ve given the wrong impression in this thread. i don’t think you’ve done anything wrong; i think you were misunderstood. you used a word one way, but readers took it another.
you’ve since clarified what you’ve meant, which is all that the norms of productive discourse can ask.
i disagree with your model of the reader, and present an alternative. but i get the feeling you’re not that interested in this and/or are very confident in your understanding.
I don’t conceptualize them that way. I fucked someone; that does not mean I conquered them in any sense beyond the fucking itself. Perhaps you are bringing in a frame where fucking someone implies bringing them low in some way that extends beyond the sex. But I never said anything like that, do not think anything like that, and do not generally live in that frame. This is your associations talking, not mine, and frankly it does not sound like a healthy way to relate to fucking.
hey, i don’t think that you do, and have not at any point. but we’re not legislating what’s in your heart, we’re trying to understand why some had a negative reaction to your word choice.
my understanding of your model of the offense:
people see the word ‘fuck’
they think of ‘very erotic’ sex
they are not comfortable with this, for possibly complex reasons
they are offended.
i suggest instead that what’s happening is
people see the word ‘fuck’
they think of what is (to them) a far more common usage of the word: a sort of conquest/damage
gross!
anyway, sorry if i’ve given the wrong impression in this thread. i don’t think you’ve done anything wrong; i think you were misunderstood. you used a word one way, but readers took it another.
you’ve since clarified what you’ve meant, which is all that the norms of productive discourse can ask.
i disagree with your model of the reader, and present an alternative. but i get the feeling you’re not that interested in this and/or are very confident in your understanding.
Alright. Sorry for being grumpy at you, and thank you for the model.