“You know that feeling you get when you’re eating oreos? You feel excited and sad and slightly sick.” It’s clear that you’re referring to yourself, but the language ambiguity creates more emotional impact.
The emotional impact this has on me is negative. It’s actually not clear to me that the speaker is referring to themselves rather than assuming things about me, and the things they’re maybe-assuming about me are incorrect.
The emotional impact this has on me is negative. It’s actually not clear to me that the speaker is referring to themselves rather than assuming things about me, and the things they’re maybe-assuming about me are incorrect.
Strong upvote to philh, and strong pushback on FinalFormal.
Not on the fact that FinalFormal is describing a true thing. I think FinalFormal is accurately representing a very common perspective.
But pushback on the normative nature of FinalFormal’s comment. FinalFormal seems to me to be saying “come on, play into this dynamic” and N O P E.
(That link is an entire essay on how the ambiguity is bad.)